oral sex

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Registered: 05-07-2008
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Wed, 05-07-2008 - 9:10am

I've been with my guy for 2 months now.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: cjann90
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 9:23am

Welcome to the board, cjann90.

Some guys don't like performing oral ..... some people consider it more intimate than IC. If he's not willing to go there from the beginning, then perhaps it's not his favorite thing to do, or perhaps it's something he's not confident about doing. Each person has their own reaasons.

If that's a deal break for you, then you really need to talk to him about it, outside of the bedroom. The idea of give and take is good, but if he's not into it, it will never be "equal". That being said, I don't think it's a good idea to go into sexual situations expecting to keep score. If you enjoy giving him oral for your own benefits, then stick with it .... if you're doing it to get some sort of reciprocation, then you may have a problem on your hands.

Think about the entire sexual experience with him and how you feel about that. Perhaps oral isn't his thing, but he may still be rocking your world enough to make up for it in other areas.


















iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2008
In reply to: cjann90
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 9:43am

Below is a i.Village room you should take a look at.


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rloralsex

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-07-2008
In reply to: cjann90
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 9:58am
can't find your response
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: cjann90
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 10:34am

There are three kinds of men in this world, when it comes to giving oral sex!


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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-01-2008
In reply to: cjann90
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 2:25pm


Hi cjann90,
No I actually can't understand that at all.
I’ve literally never met a guy who didn't like to go down on his lover.
Just let him know how you feel. It's important to articulate your feelings so you don't get bitter and resentful. Since he has apparently never done this for you I’m sure the problem lies with him and not you.

Sorry I couldn't be more help.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-07-2008
In reply to: cjann90
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 2:43pm

Hi


Thanks for your response -


I feel that it is a rather selfish and self-centered guy that does this and I'm trying to figure out if it's worth it to stick it out.


I should add that we're both late 50's.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2004
In reply to: cjann90
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 5:35pm
it took me a while to actually go down on my dh. Just give him some time.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-07-2008
In reply to: cjann90
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 8:25am
thx - i'll do that
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-28-2004
In reply to: cjann90
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 9:38am
its worth a try. what can happen? he might say no????? yea i dont think so. Good Luck.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: cjann90
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 10:40am
You haven't met a lot of men, then.

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