Some guys don't like performing oral ..... some people consider it more intimate than IC. If he's not willing to go there from the beginning, then perhaps it's not his favorite thing to do, or perhaps it's something he's not confident about doing. Each person has their own reaasons.
If that's a deal break for you, then you really need to talk to him about it, outside of the bedroom. The idea of give and take is good, but if he's not into it, it will never be "equal". That being said, I don't think it's a good idea to go into sexual situations expecting to keep score. If you enjoy giving him oral for your own benefits, then stick with it .... if you're doing it to get some sort of reciprocation, then you may have a problem on your hands.
Think about the entire sexual experience with him and how you feel about that. Perhaps oral isn't his thing, but he may still be rocking your world enough to make up for it in other areas.
Hi cjann90, No I actually can't understand that at all. I’ve literally never met a guy who didn't like to go down on his lover. Just let him know how you feel. It's important to articulate your feelings so you don't get bitter and resentful. Since he has apparently never done this for you I’m sure the problem lies with him and not you.
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Welcome to the board, cjann90.
Some guys don't like performing oral ..... some people consider it more intimate than IC. If he's not willing to go there from the beginning, then perhaps it's not his favorite thing to do, or perhaps it's something he's not confident about doing. Each person has their own reaasons.
If that's a deal break for you, then you really need to talk to him about it, outside of the bedroom. The idea of give and take is good, but if he's not into it, it will never be "equal". That being said, I don't think it's a good idea to go into sexual situations expecting to keep score. If you enjoy giving him oral for your own benefits, then stick with it .... if you're doing it to get some sort of reciprocation, then you may have a problem on your hands.
Think about the entire sexual experience with him and how you feel about that. Perhaps oral isn't his thing, but he may still be rocking your world enough to make up for it in other areas.
Below is a i.Village room you should take a look at.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rloralsex
There are three kinds of men in this world, when it comes to giving oral sex!
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Hi cjann90,
No I actually can't understand that at all.
I’ve literally never met a guy who didn't like to go down on his lover.
Just let him know how you feel. It's important to articulate your feelings so you don't get bitter and resentful. Since he has apparently never done this for you I’m sure the problem lies with him and not you.
Sorry I couldn't be more help.
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Hi
Thanks for your response -
I feel that it is a rather selfish and self-centered guy that does this and I'm trying to figure out if it's worth it to stick it out.
I should add that we're both late 50's.
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