oral sex (advice?)
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oral sex (advice?)
| Thu, 05-26-2005 - 12:05am |
I'm pretty new at giving head, I've done it twice before and it was ok. But I have a pretty small mouth and I'm worried that it will be a problem at some point. If anyone has advice, please share!

The best advice that I can give you is that there is absolutely no need to try and stuff the whole thing into your mouth. Not many people do. Just try sucking the head, swirling your tongue around it, licking the shaft, rubbing your lips up and down it.
Use one hand to hold the bit that's outside your mouth and with some practice you'll be able to bob your head and hand in time up and down on his penis which feels good. If your jaw gets tired, take a break and use that hand to give a handjob. A good BJ is 50% handwork anyway.
Use plenty of saliva and keep him wet and slippery. If none of this works and he doesn't seem to be enjoying it, ASK him. All guys have something that they like that's a bit different than the next guy.
Don't attempt to take the whole thing into your mouth or to deepthroat. Most women can't do that comfortably and if you're choking, you certainly won't enjoy it or want to do it very often. It should be comfortable and enjoyable for you, too. Just don't assume that you MUST do that for your partner to enjoy oral sex, you don't.
As Westie said, most of your time should be spent on stimulating the head anyway and using your hand to stimulate the shaft.
When you get tired, take a break or switch to intercourse.
Edited 5/26/2005 5:39 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
Thank you for that advice b/c I have that same problem my mouth is also small except Ive been to scared to try giving him pleasure that way. b/c im too afraid that I ill choke or gag.
thanx
I agree that with practice you can deepthroat. I have even gotten to the point where I can dp my husband's and then swallow - that gives him some sort of feeling on the head that he really likes.
Maybe he is different but he prefers hands off. He was teasing me the other day about my old "hand guard" positioning so I could control the depth. He prefers my hands to be doing other things.
Back to the original question though, I would say, keep it wet, vary what you are doing and ask/be attuned to what he likes/dislikes and you can't go wrong.