oral sex on man

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Registered: 07-11-2005
oral sex on man
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Mon, 07-11-2005 - 5:59pm
help my husband, he wants me to swallow but i just cant do it, he can have all the sex he wants from me and all the oral sex but i just cant get past the swallowing part i do put on a flavored condom just befor he cums and this is better than nothing he tells me so any triks to get past this prob
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 6:12pm

Have you swallowed in the past and had a bad experience or is it the thought of semen that's distasteful to you? If it's the latter, you might be surprised at how benign semen tastes. Every man's is different, of course, but for the most part, there's not much taste there.

You might try and keep a soft drink or water on the nightstand while performing orally and take a sip after he ejaculates. That can dilute it enough to get it down. But you know, you don't have to swallow once he ejaculates in your mouth....you can spit.

While I understand your hubby's desire for this, the way to go about getting it isn't to pressure, nag or cajole. And I can't understand why a man would even WANT a woman to do something she finds distasteful or gross!

But in the end, this should be your choice, not his. Do the best you can and remind him that his physical pleasure is NOT being affected by your not swallowing! It's AFTER the fact.

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Registered: 06-28-2005
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 8:15pm
I swallowed one night just out of curiosity, and believe me I hated the taste at first. But now it doesn't bother me at all. Sometimes I swallow, sometimes I don't. It's not really that bad, I kinda like it. But you shouldn't feel forced into doing anything. If you don't want to do it, don't do it.
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Registered: 07-11-2005
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 8:26pm
What i do is when i know he is fixing to come i get alot of salivia buillt up in my mouth that way when he comes i just swollow it all.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 8:34pm

Having you swallow is nice, and lots of guys think that it's a very sexy way to finish a BJ, but it's certainly not essential for him to enjoy it. I honestly wouldn't get too upset or worried about it if you can't or don't want to. He'll live without it. By all means keep trying if you want to, but don't drive yourself silly trying to do it.

Is it the taste or the texture that you don't like?

Lots of people have problems with having a thick warm gooey blast of semen squirted into the back of their mouths. And you can rarely pinpoint the exact moment that it's going to happen either, so it always tends to catch you slightly off-guard. Practice seems to be the best way to figure out timing, and helps with getting used to the texture too. When you think that he's going to cum keep his penis closer to the front of your mouth and use you tongue against the tip to "divert the squirt" away from the back of your mouth. I've always thought that it's sexy to see semen leaking out of a girl's mouth and over my penis. You could try that if it's the swallowing that is the problem rather than the taste.

If it's the taste, as suggested, keep a drink handy, or try a flavoured mint during the BJ. If he smokes or eats a lot of meat that can change the flavour of the semen too. Another good reason to give up smoking. Apparently drinking pineapple juice helps to make it better flavoured too. He might be willing to try that.

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 9:40pm
Well, all of the answers were good. I don't swallow, I usually hold it in my mouth for a little while and then spit it back out over his penis. He likes to see it.I really don't like the taste the few times that some has slipped down, I usually gag. I think I'm going to try the soda thing. The other day I gave him a BJ with Cool Whip but I still didn't swallow. He was cumming and putting more Cool Whip on his penis so I could lap it up, he really enjoyed that I guess he would pass out if I finally swallowed.
But like everyone said do what makes you feel comfortable. God, I love this sight!