Oral Sex Questions

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-25-2004
Oral Sex Questions
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Fri, 06-25-2004 - 6:28pm
The guy I'm seeing wants me to give him oral sex, and admittedly I want to do it for him too. However, I'm really scared b/c I have a very stronggag reflex and I also have TMJ. My jaw locks and I'm left unable to move it and in real pain. Can someone please help me get over my fear and also tell me any tips for good technique. I want to do it, but those two things make me really nervous. Any help would be really appreciated it. Thank you!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-03-2004
Fri, 06-25-2004 - 7:00pm
Hello,

before I start I admit I've never given oral to my bf as of yet, but i have read numerous boards on this topic and I'll tell you what I heard....

First, there is no rule saying you have to take in your gut until you are about to gag. Keep that in mind... Many guys enjoy mouth attention to the head, and normally wont complain when the girl uses her hands to work with the rest of his penis. Also you can lick the shaft witout having to put it all in your mouth... and if you truly feel comforatable with giving him oral, you should be able to tell him that you do have a bad gag reflex..... he should understand, and cope with it...... just dont forget that your hands can do wonders! Work as you go, and if it is your first time, he will understand... these things do take practice...

Hope I've helped

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-11-2004
Fri, 06-25-2004 - 9:28pm
1-TALK to your man & explain the TMJ and the gagg reflex.

2-When my wife gives me fellatio, she doesn't deep throat; but, she licks and sucks the gland. With lotioned hands, she strokes the penis shaft. In that way, the fellatio can last a long time. She doesn't get a tired jaw or pain. Good luck! Please keep us posted, Mac

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2004
Sat, 06-26-2004 - 11:26am
If you and your bf have a good relatinship, then just talk to him about it . Tell him that you have a couple of fears, but that you really want to try. Explain the TMJ to him, so that he is aware of it. As for gagging, I read what Mac wrote. Coming from a guy, he knows better then we women. There are several different ways to perform oral sex. Start out with licking and stroking with your hand. Explore him. One step at a time until you find what is going to work for the two of you. Your bf will be happy just with the fact that you want to find a way to please him in that way.