Oral & 'south of the border' same time?

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Registered: 06-22-2008
Oral & 'south of the border' same time?
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Wed, 07-02-2008 - 9:37pm

I just mentioned in a different post that dh and I are a pretty boring couple. And after reading most of the posts I think I would get the best response here!! Hope you can help.


Lately when dh is going down on me, he has been hitting my buttons in all the right places.We have never had anal, we tried once and it is just not going to work. Either way, i think (keyword think) the last two times he has been doing oral on me and venturing south of the border at the same time. This comes as a surprise to me becuase he is just so normal when it comes to sex. I havent mentioned anything to him about it. I dont know how to, but I love it when he does. I have never felt that feeling before that is why i assume he is playing there. I am pretty open about everything with him and he knows that. But i just cant think of a way to bring it up modestly and not in a shocking way. Any ideas? I do

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Registered: 03-31-2007

If he does it again, when he comes up, you could always say something like, "whatever you were doing down there was just incredible" (in your sexiest voice, LOL). He might open up then and say what he was doing, which would open a conversation between the two of you where he would say what he was doing -- or perhaps what he hopes to do.

If not, and you think you are enjoying anal stimulation, you might want to let him know that you would like to give it another try. Many people recommend building up to it slowly, using fingers or plugs to help you get used to receiving anal penetration prior to having a penis inserted.

Let me know if you want some articles on anal sex, and I'll post some for you.



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Registered: 06-22-2008

Thanks for the advice. It is very awkward for us to 'talk' about that stuff. I do bring out the kid in him and I know that. I know that anal is really not an option, after dd, things were never the same there. But surprisingly I like the play. I never thought I would. I*hope* I get another round of that tomorrow night and I will bring it up after he comes up. I just hope it doesnt kill the moment, LOL!!!


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Good luck with it! let us know how it goes ;-)


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Registered: 12-28-2007

I'm programmed to think sex is bad...by parents...so because of that...I would think the south of the border

Missy
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Registered: 12-12-2006

I think you misunderstood the post.

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Registered: 12-12-2006

Honey, he's DOING it........and I'm sure he can tell by your reaction that you enjoy it......so what would be so earth shattering for you to TELL him that you love it, and want him to do it again, and again, and again!


I don't think "modesty" has a place in the marriage bed anyway!

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If you
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Registered: 06-06-2008

Some subtle feedback in the form of moans and squirming will do the job, he will get the message.

Sometimes I "accidentally" venture outside the usual to see what the reaction might be.

Give him feedback.

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Registered: 05-24-2008
The next time he goes down on you just ask him to do what he did the time before because you really liked it.
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