Oral too intense???

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Oral too intense???
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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 8:49pm
Do any of you women find oral sex too intense?

I'm asking because of my experience with my wife. We've been together for over 18 months and at the beginning of our relationship I pleasured her solely with oral and digital. Over time our lovelife developed and she began to enjoy intercourse more and more and to orgasm repeatedly from it. For about the last nine months she has had a strong preference for intercourse and we've done oral less and less. Lately we've been down to only doing oral maybe once or twice a week. I thought she still enjoyed oral a lot ,but just preferred to get on to intercourse, which was also more pleasureable for me.

On Sunday morning I did oral on her in one of our favorite positions and she had one of her rare "super-orgasms" ( they happen about once a month and almost always from oral in this position). Afterwards we had intercourse pretty much as normal. Sunday evening we did a repeat performance, but she didn't have the "super orgasm". Monday morning I wanted to try it again and she got a rather scared look in her eyes and said "No". I was surprised at her strong reaction and asked her about it. She said that oral was just so intense for her that she really didn't want it so often. We proceeded with our usual, which is digital briefly, followed by intercourse, which she enjoyed thoroughly and orgasmed several times. Interestingly enough, the digital doesn't seem to be too much for her, though she told me she prefers it when I don't rub too directly on her clitoris.

So does anyone else have this experience? I'm really glad she told me this as I had been wondering why she didn't desire oral more often because I really love doing it.

taoist

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 8:56pm
You're still alive out there! Guess life has kept you busy, eh? I actually find manual to be more intense than oral, and it can hurt to have my clit directly touched if not careful or properly aroused.

Leticia

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 10:51pm
Pal...LOL...where have you BEEN??!! ;D

Okay, once the Mrs. here gets to oragsm that intensely from ANY foreplay, then its the ol' "do not touch" for us...LOL! Once she gets 'em that intense, its over! Just gets too sensitive down there.

So something for ya to think about: Is it possible that the stimulation was a little bit much for her the super O itself?? Sometimes the direct stimulation, EVEN BY ORAL, will be enough to cause extra sensitivity if it gets overdone--overdone for the purpose of continuing till orgasm of course.

Just thinking off the top. Nice to have ya back here every once in a while, so don't be a stranger.

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Registered: 04-19-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 12:04am

Hey Taoist, stranger.


I don't have that reaction to oral - but I do with manual.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 8:09am

Hi Taoist glad to see you back.


There are times I'm like that and it's just too much especially if he is concentrating directly on my clitoris with oral or


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Registered: 08-09-2004
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 11:45am
<<< On Sunday morning I did oral on her in one of our favorite positions and she had one of her rare "super-orgasms" ( they happen about once a month and almost always from oral in this position). >>>


Okay, no more secrets. What exactly is this "favorite position". If it isn't already in our repertoire, I would like to see if I can obtain similiar results with my wife :)

Tom

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 3:46pm
Thanks everybody, for the welcome back. Guess I've been a little busy, ha-ha :>)

I'm not sure I'm making my point clear. Leticia and Tish, you seem to be talking about touching her clitoris too directly especially during digital. That isn't what I'm talking about. We do digital before intercourse about 95% of the time and she doesn't feel it's too intense (though she wants to move on to intercourse after 1-2 orgasms). If I'm stroking too directly on her clitoris , she gives me immediate feedback and I correct it ( it doesn't happen very often). Lately I've been experimenting with variations on my stroking technique with longer, lighter, and less direct strokes especially with the side of my finger rather than the tip. She also seems to like it when I move my finger in ovals without actually rubbing across her clitoris too much.

I'm talking about oral. I'm not licking too hard or too directly and she is coming to orgasm easily. It's just that the orgasms are so intense, she prefers not to have them so often.

Para and Yasmin, I'm also not talking about that super-sensitive, "do not touch" period right after orgasm. I understand that most women have this and it was my experience with previous women. DW says she taught herself to overcome this with a vibrator a few years ago. She has no "do not touch" period after orgasm from either intercourse or direct clitoral stimulation through oral/digital. I just keep going and she orgasms again, though we do change up after 2 or 3. Actually, on Sunday after her "super-orgasm" , we changed positions and I got hard and we went on to have intercourse and she orgasmed several times from that.

I'm certainly not complaining. As much as I love giving her oral, intercourse does have the advantage of stimulating me and giving me orgasms at the same time as hers. I just had thought that maybe one of the reasons she had not been wanting oral much was that she thought it was too selfish of her to be receiving most of the pleasure . Now that we've talked I understand that that wasn't the case. She just prefers our usual pattern of a couple of orgasms from digital, then intercourse for a few. Her orgasms from oral are just too "localized" and intense (even when they aren't "super")to have on a regular basis.

It's really cool talking this stuff out and getting to know each other so intimately.

Now, here's a twist. After all this discussion and revelation, last night(Tuesday) we started with our usual digital, then DW reverses and goes into a head-to-toe position for mutual oral (another one of my favorites, mostly because I get to eat her rather than her doing oral on me). She had two very quick orgasms and then changed position to intercourse with her on top. Afterwards I thanked her for the mutual oral and she said "I know how much you like it." Wow! What a wonderful woman! What a wonderful wife!

taoist

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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 3:52pm
bio603: >>What exactly is this "favorite position".<<

It's probably nothing that most other people don't do. She lies on her back with her legs spread. I lie on my stomach between her legs (we have a king-size bed and we lie diagonally). She starts with both feet on my shoulders and then extends one leg down my back. I reach up with my hands and caress her breasts while eating her. We call this "the goddess position" because I feel like I'm worshipping her like a goddess.

taoist

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 4:34pm
>>Leticia and Tish, you seem to be talking about touching her clitoris too directly especially during digital.<<

Actually, I did understand you. I was saying that for me, the orgasms from digital are more intense than from oral. I am not sure what to add to your discussion, since I can have a really strong orgasm in any position, it's not any one particular act that does it. SO, there is nothing for me to save for special occasions ;-)

Leticia