Oral vs. Vaginal

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Registered: 07-10-2006
Oral vs. Vaginal
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Thu, 09-07-2006 - 3:56pm

Interesting scenario....

For the past two times my guy and I have had sex, we haven't had vaginal sex. We've each climaxed separately through oral sex. Is this strange? Should I watch out if this becomes a trend?

We are both into most everything on the sexual spectrum and think we rock each others' worlds, if we don't say so ourselves. I know he LOVES receiving (and I LOVE giving), but I guess my concern is that he's hung up on the oral and to be honest, I want some of the other things on the menu! I think oral is far more intimate of an act than vaginal, sometimes, but what does this mean? I think he's more likely to climax via oral, and I'm sure that's why he prefers it, but I guess I'm just looking for some sort of hidden meaning behind his recent preferences.

Any comments? What's up with him?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 5:58pm

There's nothing wrong with orgasming this way. But if you'd like to alternate oral and vaginal or start with oral and end with vaginal, say so! It's your sex life, too!

Speak up or forever hold your peace, as they say.

But, it's very possible that he either hasn't been treated to as much oral pleasure in the past as he has with you and he's making up for lost time, or that he gets more intense sensations from oral than vaginal, or he simply enjoys being able to concentrate on his own pleasure at the time.

I personally think you're looking for a "meaning" when it's likely as simple as he enjoys oral. It's only been 2 times, after all! BUT no one wants chicken for dinner every night of the week and I seriously doubt he'd want only oral every night either!

Ask for what you want, or you'll have to want what you get.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 9:14pm

I don't think it's strange at all, Dh and I sometimes finish with oral a couple times in a row, or vaginal, or


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Registered: 07-26-2005
Fri, 09-08-2006 - 12:41am

I agree with the others....WHAT "hidden meaning"? Two times doesn't make a "trend", either. Just curious......you love giving and he loves receiving, but what about him giving and YOU receiving?

As the others said, if it seems like it's going to BE a trend, then it's time to speak up....he's not a mind reader, and if you don't like it, then you have to tell him. If you don't ask, you don't get.

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Registered: 01-07-2005
Fri, 09-08-2006 - 12:54am

I was with one man for whom vaginal did nothing for him. He was purely an oral/anal man. As great as he was orally, I need vaginal, so we parted ways.

Communication, IMO, is a key essential to a great sex life/relationship. So if you questions, you need to ask him. Good luck.

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Registered: 07-10-2006
Fri, 09-08-2006 - 11:55am

Thank you guys very much for your input.

I know, I know...I'm trying to read too much into this. Women have a tendency to do that, ya know :)

To answer a question of one of the poster's... yes! He is very giving in bed.

And I am very vocal about what I want, but recently I've just gone with the flow... possibly because those nights I had already gotten mine and simply wanted more...not sure :)

Thanks for your help. Silly questions, I know.

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Registered: 07-17-2006
Fri, 09-08-2006 - 7:28pm
In truth while I adore intercourse I really prefer giving oral (Gay or Gal)over all else!