orgasims and positions

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Registered: 05-05-2006
orgasims and positions
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Sun, 04-22-2007 - 3:11pm
ok here i go. my bf and i have been together for over a year. we have been having sex about a year or so. he was a virgin when we got together. i realize the only sex he ever had was masterbating to porn. but i thought after being with me all this time things would change. He is an incredable lover. he doesnt rush and everything is good. except for one small thing. i cant seem to get him to ejaculate unless i am on top. once and only once did he ever do it while he was on top. that was after a night of heavy drinking. i am not going to get him drunk ever time we have sex. when he did it scared him. i wasnt use to it. is there anyway i can change that. i dont mind being on top but all the time its boring. we dont have sex much which is ok, but still i dont like being stuck in a rut. any suggestions are apreacated
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 04-22-2007 - 8:39pm

Does he have any health problems that might be contributing? Sometimes ED (erectile dysfunction) makes it difficult for a man to keep their erection. He is getting great visuals with you on top, and he is not having to change position or break his concentration.

Have you tried rear entry positions (doggy style)? Try kneeling on the bed and having him stand behind you. You can support yourself with your arms, or you can lay your body down onto a pillow and have your shoulders (or cross your arms beneath your head) on the mattress.



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Registered: 05-05-2006
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 6:26am
the only kind of medical problems he has is a bad sholder. and as for doggy style ..... ii will put it to u this way. he only weighs 160 and i weigh 210. that should explain it. i hope that helps out a little. i know it shouldnt make a differene but sometimes i think it does. goodd thing heloves me for who i am on the insideq
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 6:38am

"he only weighs 160 and i weigh 210. that should explain it"

I'm confused as to what you mean by this statement. The only thing I can think of is that you are saying you are self-conscious. If you are doing WOT, he's seeing a whole lot more of you than he would during doggy style.

I don't remember if I recommended this position, but having your bodies for a T shape is also good. You lay on your back, him on his side. You put one leg over him and the other between his legs. It's very easy, physically, on both of you, and provides a lot of opportunity for accessing other parts of your body.

How does he feel about not ejaculating? Does it bother him? Also, do you know if he watches/uses a lot of porn or masturbates often? Sometimes that makes a difference.



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Registered: 04-20-2007
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 10:46am

Does he still masterbate alot that could be a reason why also?

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Registered: 05-05-2006
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 8:58pm
since we havebeen living together as far as i know he doesnt masterbate anymore. and as for porn i have tried watching it with him but he doesnt seem to be interested. maybe thats a good thing. who knows
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Registered: 05-05-2006
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 9:00pm
as far as i know he doesnt do that anymore.