Orgasm

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Orgasm
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Thu, 05-31-2007 - 1:36pm
I have been with my wife for 15 years. As in any marriage had a great sex in the begining and then after kids and things we went into slump and now thanks in part to this site we are trying to fix things and get back into sex. I do have newly discovered problem however. Before I would have earth shaking orgasms to the point I would scream. Now no matter how great the actual sex part is the orgasm part is very VERY disapointing. I don't understand why. It is even confusing my wife. Last night she kept asking me if I finished because it was so unnoticable. I do enjoy the sex part a lot but still the orgasm is a big let down. Any ideas why this is happening and how it can be fixed?
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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: burningjupiter
Thu, 05-31-2007 - 11:58pm

Welcome to the board burningjupiter.

It's great to hear that you and your wife are getting back on track with your sexual relationship. I suspect that part of your problem is because there has been a period of distance for the two of you.

There are many psychological aspects to sex and orgasms. I would work at making the experiences fresh and exciting to see if that makes a difference. Work to think about sex more and build your desire throughout the day.

My DH and I went through a long dry spell several years back, and it has taken a while to get back on track. Try to relax and enjoy what's going on, but also allow yourself time to adjust -- and trust -- that your sex life will be satisfying again.



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