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| Sat, 10-21-2006 - 12:49pm |
my guy has never gave me an orgasm. nor it seems like he wants to. he doesnt really like foreplay much, and like to get straight to the action. and once he's done, we're both done...even though i'm not! what can i do to get my guy into it more and so i can finally hvae an orgasm! plese help!

There's a couple of things here. First of all your b/f can't really "give" you an orgasm. It's not like he hands you a gift wrapped present, it's something that you have to make for yourself with his help. You have to know how and what gets you there in the first place and then you have to guide and show and encourage him to do what you need to get there. In a nutshell, your orgasm is ultimately your responsibility.
The first step is to make time with the foreplay and since he doesn't seem to like it, you are going to have to do a couple of things about that - first, it sounds like you need to talk to him. Start by telling him that you love the sex but would love to spin it out a bit longer and take more time with it. Explain that you really like foreplay and that lots of foreplay is the best way for you have an orgasm. Even the dumbest b/f should get the hint.
If he doesn't, tell him that you'd like to take some more time with whatever you need to have an orgasm. Use lots of positive reinforcement - say things like "When you down on me, you are the greatest and it feels so good. You know if you stayed a bit longer I'm sure that you'd make me cum", or "I love it when you do...", "You've got a great technique/tongue/fingers." etc.
Secondly, there are two of you having sex and he can't get to the intercourse if you won't let him. At the end of the day you CAN be more assertive and instead of letting him jump on top and get straight to the intercourse you can suggest or show or actually even say that you'd like more foreplay.