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Orgasm?
| Wed, 01-19-2005 - 2:59pm |
Okay. My boyfriend of 1 year wants to have sex with me. I am a virgin and so is he. I really want him to be my first, but before we have sex I had a question. What exactly is an orgasm? I need a detailed answer, I dont wanna be shocked when my boyfriend and I have sex.
-nutmeg526

An orgasm is a "feeling".....a good one that happens when the sex is good. But, since you're both virgins, there are many more important things you have to worry about than orgasms. Many women don't have them, some women take years to learn how to have them..and a few might have them early on. It does't make any difference.
If you've had any sexual experience....foreplay, oral and/or manual, been naked together, fondled each other.....or if you've ever masturbated, then you might have already had an orgasm. Understand NOW that most women do NOT have orgasms from intercourse alone. We have them from clitoral stimulation!
Rather than worry about orgasms, both of you need to understand what you're doing, you have to understand how YOUR body works, and so does he. Intercourse is only a small part of being sexual, so don't build up expectations that might not be met....at least for you. He'll enjoy it...because that's what men do. But most of your enjoyment will come from all the rest of the activity.
You need to discuss birth control, and who's going to be responsible for it.
For more info on your body and how it works, that BOTH of you should check out....go to www.the-clitoris.com