Orgasm during Intercourse

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Orgasm during Intercourse
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Mon, 09-18-2006 - 11:35am

most guys i talk to (friends, old bf, etc) tell me that MOST women they have been with have an orgasm from intercourse alone-

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Mon, 09-18-2006 - 3:09pm

You're not the minority. Your male friends are living in a dream world. Chances are that since they think they're such great lovers.....that 99% of the time their partners are faking. No matter what they think, guys can't tell the difference between faking and the real thing.

Don't feel bad about yourself, pity them!

PS: Any guy that's willing to discuss his sex life in detail is also going to exaggerate it....they're sure not going to tell you that most of their partners don't HAVE orgasms!

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Mon, 09-18-2006 - 7:59pm

I don't think that they're exaggerating, I just don't think that they truely understand what is meant by vaginal stimulation only. During most sex the vagina AND the clitoris is stimulated in one way or another. In most positions the clit is stimulated either by directly, by indirect pressure, or fingers or what have you. For example, woman on top would appear to be vaginal stimulation only at first glance - until you realise that when most women want to cum they press and grind the pubic area and clitoris down against the guy or use their fingers or use his fingers.

There just aren't too many positions where it's only the vagina that is stimulated. Even in doggie (one that comes to mind) clenching of thighs and/or fingers usually helps. I doubt that many couples have sex with *just* vaginal stimulation throughout the entire sex act. So when these guys are saying that most women they know cum from intercourse only (meaning vaginal stimulation only) they're not really telling the whole story.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-19-2006 - 1:40am
i've had the same experience as you...guys thinking most women have them during intercourse and i never have. i think the gap between men's perceptions and women's reality occurs because many women simply do not talk about what they experience or want. the guys orgasm and assume that the woman did too because she made some noise. or they may ask her "did you come" and she doesn't want to bruise their ego or is shy so she'll say "yes". i've been with many men and most say that most of the women they have been with had orgasms through intercourse, yet most of my female friends say they don't unless they have direct clitoral stimulation with a finger or tongue. it comes down to a lack of communication between the sexes.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-19-2006 - 2:12am

The statistics simply do not substantiate what your guy friends are saying. MOST women need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm. That's what a clitoris is for, after all!

Just because some women tell their guys what they would like to hear or believe, doesn't mean it's so. It just means that they are encouraging them to do what they THINK they're supposed to. Many women still believe that they should orgasm from penetration alone and too many men are clueless about female biology & sexuality.




Edited 9/19/2006 2:15 am ET by katmandoo2001