Orgasm from Oral

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Registered: 04-19-2007
Orgasm from Oral
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Mon, 05-07-2007 - 1:08pm
I have been eating DW for many years and never have I been able to give her an orgasm. I'll lick and suck all over and tounge her clit for quite a while but she never cums. She enjoys it but she says she can't cum from it. Does anyone else have this problem. Is it me or her. It usually takes her quite a while to cum even with the magic wand. HELP
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Registered: 02-09-2007
In reply to: j8331
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 1:20pm
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Registered: 08-16-2006
In reply to: j8331
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 1:23pm
I'm the same as your Wife. DH has been trying to get me to O for soon to be 17 years and have had no luck. Actually ( even tho it is a fantasy of mine ) I never expect to be able to O and it's not it's not because DH hasn't tried every technique. Some people, both men and women have difficulty reaching a climax thru OS. If what you are doing pleases her I wouldn't worry, especially since she needs quite some time to O from what normally works. Is he's willing and able to give you guidance?
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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: j8331
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 1:24pm

Sounds like she might have a hard time getting her mind in the right place, or she just likes enjoying the pleasure. Do you think there is a chance that she will guide you and let you know what feels best during oral?

She may not be sure herself, since it's taking a while when using a vibrator. The two of you can visit the-clitoris.com. You may find some helpful information there. If she's not sure of the exact way or spot that works for her, she can use a mirror during masturbation. This way she can see where she reacts the most.

It really sounds like communication might be helpful to both of you. First, she needs to be able to relax and get her mind in the right place.



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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: j8331
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 2:07pm

Your wife has a hangup about it. Either about the oral, or about having an orgasm itself. OR, she just hasn't learned how to get into the pleasure and just let herself go. Many women NEVER learn how, unfortunately. Any woman can have an orgasm if she learns how.....how to clear her mind of everything except the pleasure she's having, and how to allow an orgasm to happen. Men can have the same problem. They can go on and on and on, and never reach a climax from intercourse, but can do it manually or orally. It's a matter of learning how, and allowing it to happen.

I'll answer your other question here....yes, you're probably finding the "g" spot, which isn't a "spot" or a "bump" that you can identify. Think of it as being behind the clitoris.....(it is) and the clitoris is a tree, and the "g" spot is the roots of the tree. They both share the same nerve endings.

If you want to give your wife the most intense orgasm she's ever had, while you're rubbing the "g" spot, use your tongue on the clitoris.....at the same time. It's called the venus butterfly, and that might just "loosen" her up for oral in the future, too.

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Registered: 04-19-2007
In reply to: j8331
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 3:28pm
I've done that - the Venus Butterfly, and she does cum and seems to love it, although it seems like my fingers are what are causing the orgasm. Thanks for the advise.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: j8331
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 3:49pm
It doesn't really matter what's causing it, what matters it that it's happening. An orgasm is an orgasm......whether it's your finger or your tongue. Since she doesn't have them from oral.....then you're probably right, but what's the difference....she's having them.
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Registered: 04-07-2007
In reply to: j8331
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 3:55pm
Hi!I am also another that's the same way.My DH is great at it but have never for 5 years been able to either.I think it just depends on the person.
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