orgasms

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Registered: 08-09-2004
orgasms
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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 4:21am
I know that as women get a little older, going from teens up- that they increase their chance to have a vaginal orgasm due to more experience; however, my fiance and I have been together for a long time (we live together) and sex occurs multiple times a day. I can have clitoral orgasms very easily, but in our entire time of being together, I can only remember 2 or 3 vaginal orgasms. We regularly do every position in the book and he can cum no problem, I just can't seem to. It's not anything that he's doing, (or not doing) because I come close, but just can't climax. Yes, we use toys and lubes, etc. but nothing. Is there any tricks or hints that anyone could give me because he's starting to think that it's him, when it isn't at all... it's just takes me a LONG time to get off! Please reply as soon as you can if you have any ideas. Thank you! :)
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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: civicbabe98
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 5:17am
Hope this is quick enough for ya. ;)

I'm no expert, but I think 'talking' to him is your first best trick. We state many times on this board that sex and orgasms are NOT accomplishments, so he needs to convince him of that and that you're enjoying him regardless. You're right, some women take longer to have vaginals, sometimes it takes longer than other times too.

Regarding positions, try sticking with the ones that put the emphasis on stimulation the front vaginal wall, such as reverse cowgirl or even a wheelbarrow styled doggy may help. Mrs. Para loves being on top because it puts HER in control of the depth of penetration and the thrusting and the angle and you name it. Perhaps that'd be your best option so that the of you can learn along the way what really works for you in there.

Good luck!

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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: civicbabe98
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 10:04am
Getting older? Age has nothing to do with anything, except possibly being more relaxed during sex. That's the key for any age....relaxation, and also learning to enjoy everything instead of concentrating on "goals", some of which are impossible for most women to achieve.

Statistics show that 75% to 80% of women do NOT have orgasms from intercourse alone, and that's because the vagina has very little feeling, except for the opening. The majority of women need clitoral stimulation in addition to intercourse to have orgasms.

If you want orgasms during intercourse, then you, or he, or your position(s) need to provide clitoral stimulation. Woman on top, if done correctly usually does it.

If women do have vaginal orgasms, with no clitoral help, it's usually after having prior orgasms, and it's more of an emotional response than a physical one.

Bottom line, there are many women who never have orgasms of any kind....be glad you have them at all, and don't worry about where they originate.

He can STOP thinking it's him, because he has nothing to do with your orgasms, beyond providing some stimulation. You're the one who allows them to happen, no matter what he's doing or not doing. One thing is for sure, the more you concentrate on it, and make it a goal, the less likely it's going to happen.

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Registered: 08-03-2004
In reply to: civicbabe98
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 9:30pm
You can buy these rings that provide clitoral stimulation while having intercourse, you can buy them at any place that have (toys) even online… try that

  

   who_reallyknows

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Registered: 08-09-2004
In reply to: civicbabe98
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 10:09pm
Thank you all for your thoughts and advise... I'll definately keep them in mind! :)