Orgasms?

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Registered: 04-20-2007
Orgasms?
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Thu, 10-25-2007 - 12:11pm
My SO loves having sex, but she does not like having orgasms this is really confusing to me. As a man I want to please my women in everyway. Why doesn't she like to cum? Ladies can you PLEASE HELP!

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Registered: 05-04-2007
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 1:40pm

Is that all she said? I don't like it & no others answers. Did you just nod & go with it


Guessing: Doesn't like to lose control? Afraid of making stupid faces? Too much work?

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Registered: 09-26-2007
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 1:49pm
Trust me I've been there before. As a woman sometimes it is hard to let yourself go in front of a man. For me when I let myself orgasm I am letting my guard down and letting myself to become more emotionally attached. A lot of women get very attached emotionally when they start having sex. Maybe is scared that her feelings are stronger for you than what yours are for her. Just talk to her about it.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 3:40pm

Just a thought, but perhaps she isn't comfortable with your activities outside of the bedroom. If she doesn't feel she can trust you or that you'll be faithful to her, then she may have difficulty relaxing. It's much easier to please a lover than it is to allow a lover to see your vulnerable side.

Also, if she isn't secure with herself, she may use sex as a way to feel secure. When a woman allows her emotions to become complicated, she can often loose sight of her own needs. She may have never experienced an orgasm, but even if she has, she needs to be there in mind and body for it to happen.



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Registered: 05-04-2007
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 4:46pm

Thanks, maybe

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Registered: 04-20-2007
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 5:08pm

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Registered: 05-04-2007
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 5:25pm

So wait, what? Now no one is finishing?


Is it a new relationship? like months? not years - because maybe she thinks this is how you want it, how it was before with the last dude & that's not how you get down at all.


Because otherwise, aren't you just giving all the right answers, lol

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Registered: 04-20-2007
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 5:35pm
It's not that I don't want to cum it's that she doesn't give me the time, it takes more then 15 mins for me to cum. After about ten she wants to stop it starts feeling to good she say's. We have been dating for three weeks lol. Don't know if I can keep this up though, I have needs also I also feel like we are not having sex since I can't please her in the way's I want, and I might get the case of the blue balls if this keeps up. LOL
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Registered: 05-04-2007
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 5:47pm

10 minutes! ... I have no response to that ... lol


I really want to know how this turns out now, I'm hooked on your soap opera


Too good? How does it feels "too good" translate into stop, it should mean Let's do that again!


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Registered: 05-04-2007
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 5:53pm

If I said you had a nice body, would you hold it against me


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Registered: 10-16-2007
In reply to: mr_niceguy2007
Thu, 10-25-2007 - 11:54pm

Hi,


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