our 1st time was horible helppp

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our 1st time was horible helppp
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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 3:45pm
ok this is kinda embarasinn but i need help guyss pls help me...well me and my bf decided it was time we had sex and well it didnt go the way we thought in fact it didnt even go in,.......he tried to get it in but we cudnt and it kept slipin out and wen it sumhow went in a tinyyy butt i screamed like hell......we aint done it since its bin a week but im soo em,barsed to do it again it felt like a disaster and the problem was that he cudnt even find the ewrmm hole to put it in.....and then it wudnt even go in....is there sumthin rong wid meeeeeeeeee or wat......i thought sex was ment to be the best thing inda world........helppp;
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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 3:48pm
You just need to relax and take time to get aoused. maybe use some lube. the first time is always horrible..especially if its the first time for both.
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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 3:52pm

I really have no idea what the OP is communicating..

Your first time was painful and not what you thought? Perhaps you weren't ready, too nervous, and unprepared. There's nothing anyone can do to fix that. If you're not old enough, then wait until you are and try it again when you're absolutely sure you want to do it. If you are old enough, then foreplay and lube and luck?

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but I'm really unable to decode messages that contain poor spelling, bad grammar, and atrocious punctuation. Poorly constructed confuses me. I apologize.

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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 5:23pm
It sounds like you didn't get enough foreplay in.

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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 6:09pm

Alot of "first times" hurt...mine hurt like **HELL**-I couldn't walk straight for over a week LOL...Relax...make sure you get enough stimulation/foreplay....and a little lubrication couldn't hurt...I wish I had used some....But then again some ladies don't have that much discomfort-everyone's different....I was totally in love with the guy and eventually married him so it was wonderful in that way....

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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 11:34pm
Dear Goddess,
I believe everybody's first time is very upsetting because it didn't turn out like the movies. Nothing in the real world is like the movies! Your first time sounds very much like mine.
First thing is tell your bf to slow down! He doesn't need to push into you so fast that he ends up somewhere you don't want him! It sounds like you were not really ready. I hope this helps you build up to intercourse. To help the both of you become more comfortable with each other...try having your boyfriend laying along side of you or on top of you. He should rub his penis against you like he would rub his hand along your crotch but not go inside of you. This will help both of you become comfortable with each other being that close and when you are ready (I mean YOU not your bf) then tell him. No one said you have to hurry...concentrate on making each feel good. Good luck!
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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 12:52am

Contrary to what another poster said, the first time isn't always horrible, and it shouldn't be horrible. However, it takes two mature people who have SOME idea of what they're doing to make it work. From your post, I would say you're too young for sex, and probably too young for this board.

Before attempting it again, you both need to learn about your body, as well as birth control and STD's. Hopefully, you used birth control, because even though you weren't successful, you could have gotten pregnant or worse yet, some kind of STD.

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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 10:23am
My 1st time wasn't great but it certainly wasn't horrible either. What we lacked in experience and finesse', we made up for in enthusiasm and desire. But the actual penetration was painful for me. However, out of my group of old friends at the time, I was the only one who experienced any pain. It's not a given for any woman.