Overweight and Feeling Un-Sexy

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Registered: 08-27-2004
Overweight and Feeling Un-Sexy
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 12:27pm

Hello all,

Need some advice and sorry for the long posting. I have recently met someone (through an online match making service), we have been out twice and spoken on the phone a lot (we have even had phone sex). He is a very sexual person and has expressed interest in "hooking up" with me. I am attracted to him and that's not the problem. The problem is me, my ex-boyfriend of 7 years stopped wanting to have sex because of my weight (I was anorexic when we met and slowly over the years starting to put on weight - a bit too much in the end). We did not have sex for the last 2 years of our relationship and broke up about 3 years ago (so yes, it has been that long). Because of a medical condition it is hard for me to lose weight - I have found a program that is working and it is coming off slowly. I am terribly self conscious about it and nervous about seeing this new guy.

Do men notice this as much as we notice it about ourselves?
Should I just wait until I feel not so yukky about myself?
Any thoughts or experiences would help.
Thanks!

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Tue, 05-03-2005 - 10:43pm

Hubby Para is all man! LOL

If "fat" is the worse thing someone can call you, big deal! Sexiness comes from within. Love yourself and others will love you too.

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Registered: 08-27-2004
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 11:28am

Thank you all for your input and support! Beginning the "sexy feeling" on the inside, carrying it through to the outside (some fun lingerie) makes me feel wonderful. And concentrating on what pleasure I can give is definitly the answer. I will just need to run this back through my head when I start feeling the blues. :)

Thanks again to everyone!

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