Pain after sex

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Registered: 07-14-2003
Pain after sex
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Tue, 08-01-2006 - 9:05pm

I'm hoping someone can help me out or just reassure me before I end up going to the doctor for nothing. Lately, when my husband and I have had sex it's started out dry (enough to where we have to stop and get some KY.) Then afterwards I feel like I have been torn or something. Like I have little tears on the edge of my V. This happened a couple of times the past two months and then again two nights ago, and it always seems to be the week leading up to my period. The past two months I thought it was a yeast infection, so my Dr. called me in meds and after a few days I felt better. This time I didn't call and instead have been putting a cream down there made up of different things including triple antibiotic. Also, when applying this, there seems like there may be a couple of scabs. It itches and burns.

Has anybody else had this?

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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: smile4700
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 12:30am

A trip to the doctor is never for "nothing". Something is going on. I can't believe he/she'd call in an Rx for a yeast infection without seeing you!

A yeast infection wouldn't dry you out or cause tears. A yeast infection could cause painful sex, but there would be a nasty foul smelling discharge, and itching and burning without having sex!

There are OTHER infections, such as bacterial or viral. There could be a hormone deficiency (you didn't give your age, but it could be perimenopause!)...or who knows what. If sex is painful, then it's time to see your gyno.

Even if they find nothing wrong, it wasn't a a wasted trip. At least you'll know there's nothing seriously wrong.

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Registered: 07-14-2003
In reply to: smile4700
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 6:57am
I forgot to mention that between the first and second times, I had my yearly check up. I would think he would have caught something there, but I also didn't mention anything because it had only happened once and I didn't know it was going to keep coming back. Also, I am 27.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: smile4700
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 10:05am

Doctor's don't "catch" things that they're not looking for! Ok, it's understandable that you didn't mention it because it had only happened once at that point. He couldn't "see" that pain had occured a week or two before.

So, now that you know it's not a "one time" occurance, it's time to go back and tell him exactly what's happening, and then he'll know WHAT to look for. Is he a gynecologist? If not, then that's who you need to see. GP's aren't that involved in sexual problems....that's not their "field".

If they know what the problem is, they'll investigate specific things, like hormone levels, etc.

Not related, but my Mom got mad at her "rheumatologist" because she was in a lot of pain in her knees.....and she felt that HE should have told her that her knee needed to be replaced! That's not the way it works. He knew that her knee was bad, but since she didn't complain to him about the pain, he had no idea how bad it was. As he told her, he's not there to "promote" surgery, he's there to relieve pain if needed.

If you don't tell them the problem, they can't fix it. They can't fix a problem if they don't know it exists.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: smile4700
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 10:33am
I agree with Dakine, he can't know there is a problem unless you tell him.

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Registered: 07-14-2003
In reply to: smile4700
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 4:41pm

I did end up going to the doctor today (gyno) and he said it's a mild case of vaginosis, that if I were in for a regular checkup, he wouldn't have said anything about the discharge because it was so minor.

Thanks a lot for all your advice!

Mandy