Painful sex

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Registered: 08-12-2005
Painful sex
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Thu, 09-01-2005 - 7:43pm
Over time sex has become more painful w/my husband...At first it seemed like a lubrication issue. (we couldn't even get started...it was too difficult for him to even get it in) So we started using KY jelly. This helped for awhile and still does with the initial getting started problem..but now i've noticed that once I reach orgasm, sex becomes uncomfortable and there is a slight burning afterwards. Many times I am reaching mine during foreplay and then we have sex and ofcourse still use lubrication. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what may be going on? Thanks in advance.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 09-01-2005 - 9:41pm

Has anything changed with you, do you have any health problems that you didn't have before?


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Registered: 07-12-2005
Thu, 09-01-2005 - 9:52pm
Any kind of burning that was consistent after sex would prompt me to contact my gyno. I agree with Tish, that it's always better to be safe than sorry.
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Registered: 08-12-2005
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 7:16am
Thanks ladies...the burning isn't intense..its uncomfortable..almost like a dryness. I don't believe i'm premenopausal..i'm only 31. Over time it just seems like i'm so dry down there. The burning doesn't continue once we are done. And isn't in the begining. I just wasn't sure if hormones will cause you to "dry out" after orgasm even after using lubrication..or maybe i'm not using enough? I'm not sure. No health problems. I patiently waiting for insurance to kick in at my hubby's job so I can go for my physical. Until then just thought i'd see if anyone else had similar problems.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 09-02-2005 - 12:49pm

Drying up after orgasm is a pretty common problem. Have you considered just reapplying lube after orgasm and repeatedly thoughout the session as needed?

The burning sensation you mentioned is the irritation you're causing to your vagina by continuing intercourse after you've dried out. Much like a rug burn or any other kind of scrape or abrasion.

I've experienced this dryness after orgasm in the past and I know that others report the same thing but extra lube always seems to help. Keep it by the bed and use it liberally.

IF you don't want to do that, then talk with your gyno about the vaginal lube inserts that are available now.




Edited 9/2/2005 12:54 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Fri, 09-02-2005 - 9:17pm
Thank you so much! I will try it! I feel better already!
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Registered: 08-12-2005
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 8:43am

one more question....

Does this happen typically w/age?

Or I've noticed a lot of changes since my tubal ligation almost 10 year ago...do things like that effect it or is it something else?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 9:30am

I had my tubes tied years ago and I never had any changes from that.


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Sat, 09-03-2005 - 1:37pm

Thanks Tish.

I've had a lot of changes since my tubal ligation..heavier periods, cramping, horrible PMS that lasts 2 full weeks before I even start...(doesn't seem fair, I only get one good week per month~ *sigh*)

Thanks everyone for the help and support!

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 4:33pm

Glad those replies helped you so much dolphin! :)

Just so you know, the Mrs. has had similar problems in the past, and they were not health related or tube related or anything. Nope, not menopausal either, not yet.

Sometimes, even by what she & I have read from others across different boards, it actually does simply happen. Without it being health related, it doesn't seem to last long either. Only thing she & I narrowed it down to during those few times in our life together was the possibility of just the extra stress that she was going through at those times.

Other than that, never did figure it out, but not a problem anymore either, so we likely never will?, not sure. Oh well, someone out there reading this may find that interesting. Good luck to you!

 

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Registered: 08-30-2005
Sat, 09-03-2005 - 11:26pm

Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this problem!

I don't think my problem is quite the same as yours...but I thought I would post just incase it can help anyone that might have a similar problem. I have been married for 1 1/2 years and both my husband and I waited until we were married. Honeymoon night was incredibly painful--just felt like it didn't "fit," with burning afterwards. Well, it's been that painful ever since. Lube wasn't the issue--we used more than enough! I finally got up the nerve to tell my doctor about 9 months later, and it turned out I was tearing every time we had sex. I went to physical therapy, tried estrogen cream, etc. but to no avail. This March, I had surgery where she removed a good sized piece (about the size of a quarter) of scar tissue. We just resumed sex in May and had my follow-up last week. I'm still tearing, but she's not sure why. Anyway, my options are to have another surgery, to go back to physical therapy using dilators, or to wait until we have a baby in the hopes that that will help.

I know my problem is not so common--I have search high and low for someone else who has experienced the "tearing" issue but haven't come across anyone yet.Just thought I would reply in case, and to reiterate that you'll feel much better when you get a chance to see your doctor--at least then the mystery will be solved! : )

Hang in there and good luck!

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