Pantyhose

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Pantyhose
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Mon, 09-05-2005 - 1:45pm
My boyfriend is great but..he only seems really turned on when I wear pantyhose. I have tons he bought me. But he wants them on me day and night, at work, at play and in bed mostly! I wear them under jeans, and he loves the "80's Flashdance" leotard look. He even rips them so we can make love while I wear them. It turns me on to feel sos exy but is he just an incurable fetishist?
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In reply to: tammimoore99
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 3:43pm
I'm all for having DW in skin, but seeing her in some slinky lingerie is like she's gift wrapping herself for me and inviting me to 'unwrap' her. And the idea that's she deliberately dressing to turn me on for sex succeeds gloriously...
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In reply to: tammimoore99
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 4:31pm

>>ALL guys have fetish(es).

No we don't; a *true* fetish means you can't get aroused without it, and most of us like a nekkid woman just fine, thanks.

Most guys *are* visual, though; seeing a woman in something revealing/tight/sheer/etc., is going to get our attention. Dressed but not 'covered up', if you get my drift. Teasing us guys a bit about what's underneath.

If you can play along with him, great. If not, talk to him about where you can find a middle ground if possible. Most guys aren't terminally hung up on lingerie.

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In reply to: tammimoore99
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 4:35pm
I agree Jax. My DH doesn't require props, garments or specific circumstances in order to become aroused and perform sexually. Men have preferences, of course, but those aren't necessarily fetishes.


Edited 9/6/2005 4:52 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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In reply to: tammimoore99
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 5:01pm

...what a high maintenance guy you've got there... tee hee

I'm going to take a second here to thank the Lord for my easy to please, no frills DH. ;-) The man gets turned on no matter what I'm wearing...really. You'd be surprised how many times I had sex with the man wearing things you'd probably suspect would turn a man off, not on.

I can't imagine being with a man who had a fetish and "needed" some object to get aroused. DH is so the opposite...so it's hard to imagine. ;-)

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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In reply to: tammimoore99
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 5:27pm

This is to you Westie, and any of the other men who want to answer...

Do those things actually turn you on "more" than if she were not wearing them? I'm just curious as to how this works...because DH gets equally turned on if I'm wearing either thigh highs or a flannel shirt that I cut the sleeves off of to paint the house in. It's the same for me with him. He has many "looks" and they all turn me on equally. It's just that we all want to turn our SO's on to FULL arousal so it goes without saying that if wearing something sexy is the only way to get them there, then we'd all probably do it(dress up) all of the time, right? So does the "dress" make you hornier than without? Thanks.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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In reply to: tammimoore99
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 6:55pm

Does it get me more excited ??? no .... unless you count anticipation ... In the summer we may spend some time at night in the pool ... and there is always some anticipation to see what she decides to wear (or not wear) to the pool. Does it make it more special if she puts on something fancy or sexy? Yes she took extra effort to make herself ready for me.

CH

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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: tammimoore99
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 7:05pm

>>Do those things actually turn you on "more" than if she were not wearing them? <<

Yes and No. I can still find her to be very sexy in a flannel nightshirt but there aint nothing like seeing her in expensive sexy lingerie! Lingerie shows off a lot of her assets much better than a flannel nightshirt, it shapes her better, exposes all the sexy bits just right, and makes her look sexier, and then the mere fact that she's wearing something sexy which means she wants sex and is acting and feeling sexy which is a turn-on in itself.

I guess it's a little like seeing a guy in his trackpants and flannel shirt on the weekend versus seeing him in an expensive tailored suit with a bunch of roses in his hand. He can turn you on regardless of what he's wearing and each outfit can have a certain appeal at any given moment, but the suit just says "take me to bed NOW baby!". :-)

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In reply to: tammimoore99
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 7:57pm

...oh...so you mean you have to get all dressed up in a suit and pick flowers to feel sexy, show off your assets, and to convey when you're ready for sex?

...and DH, is ALWAYS saying "take me to bed now Baby!" even in his sweat pants.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: tammimoore99
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 8:11pm
You know...Dh and I often have sex at the crack of dawn just when the room lights up(my favorite lighting). I'm certainly not wearing anything sexy or fancy and did not make any effort to make myself ready for him...it's amazing that the man can even "rise" to the occasion. ;-) In any event, I hope he doesn't think of it as "any less special." ;-)
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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In reply to: tammimoore99
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 12:38am
You know, I get the feeling that you are taking me too literally. If sweatpants works for you, then great. But I do know that my partner appreciates me dressing well too. There simply isn't a male version of sexy lingerie as far as I'm aware and the closest thing that I could think of was a suit. Are you saying that your husband DOESNT look sexier in a good suit?