Parents-would you give your teenage
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| Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:51am |
daughter a vibrator?
DH and I have a very healthy sex life and a strong committment to each other. Both dh and I accept masterbation as a normal part of life for us and also accept that our children will/do do it themselves.
I ask this because we have an almost 15 year old daughter. We want her to feel good about her sexuality and not feel as if she has to turn to a guy for sex before she is ready. She has a boy friend that I know they have "fooled around with" but not had sex yet. We have encouraged her to wait as long as possible to be in a solid relationship and not have sex just for personal validation or because her desire is there... She has a healthy self esteem and we have talked about waiting but I want to let her know that there is an acceptable outlet for her desire in the priacy of her own place.
I am just curious if anyone has ever had thier Mom give them a vibrator or given a daugher one or WISH they did either???? We have a pretty good relationship and I think she would be ok with it, just wondering if it would be too wierd. I wish my Mom had taught me more more but then again, I think my mom was sexually unaware of a lot- she was a traditional 50's mom!

No, I wouldn't buy a teen or any age daughter a vibe.
I think it's very important to let your child know that masturbation is normal and healthy. Also, educating her about sexual issues is important, but I wouldn't just buy her a vibrator. Personally, I don't think having a vibrator would "keep" her from having sex, and I think it would be embarrassing for her to receive one from you.
If she really does feel comfortable talking with you and can't find a way to get her own vibrator, she might ask you to help her get one if she becomes interested. Then, I would, but I tend to think she will find her own way if she is interested. In general, kids are very resourceful.
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I think it would be a good idea personally, she'll learn more about her body and like you said have a sexual outlet other than sex.
I'm not a parent, and I do agree that it's important to give your kids some good and honest advice and education about sex, but I'm not sure that giving your daughter a vibrator is appropriate or necessary.
It kinda goes a little bit too far in my opinion. If she wants to masturbate she'll do it without a vibrator, or she can get her own, or use any of the dozens of things around the house that can be pressed into service as and when required. I can't help but think that the underlying intention is to stop her having sex too. I wouldn't give my son a "Fleshlight", and I wouldn't give my daughter a vibrator. No matter how good the relationship was/is.