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Pblic sex
| Sun, 01-01-2006 - 9:21pm |
When I met my wife she was very active sexually and I was a virgin. I alsway try and get her to try and have sex in public and she will not do anything. I would like to try other fantacies and she says no.
She always tells me I have filled my fantacies and am not interested and so I have to live my fantacies through hers. She has no problems telling of her past and where and how the sex was for exampe at the park, on a beach, on a bus or pretty much anywhere but does not have any desire with me, again gives all the details of her past. I want to experience things with her, what do I do.
We have 3 kids and she is the love of my life, I do not want anyone else

Your last sentence sort of tells it all. You love her and you have 3 kids, etc. With public sex, she's been there, done that. You should probably just suck it up and forget it. You've brought it up and tried to talk her into it and she says no. What else can you do?
On a side note, why is she giving you the details of her past sex life? Are you asking for or wanting that info? If not, tell her to keep the details to herself...sounds like she is rubbing it in your nose.
Well, I can tell you that sex in public isn't a LOT of women's cup of tea! Including this one! But maybe, now that she is a mother, she feels it's inappropriate and irresponsible to do. HOWEVER, she hasn't fulfilled every fantasy one of her fantasies with YOU. Other men are other men and experiences.
Look, it isn't your wife's OBLIGATION to fulfill all your fantasies but it would be loving and nice if she wanted to fulfill those that she is equally intrigued by.
But do you really want her to do something she has zero interest in? I wouldn't want my DH to do something for me that he would be bored, uncomfortable with or disturbed by. Let her know that doing these things with YOU, her husband, will be different for both of you.
And remind her that just because SHE had these experiences with someone else, doesn't mean that they can your memories, as well. Who said that you wanted to live vicariously through her anyway?
So, unless she wants you to feel deprived, and she isn't willing to play with her DH in the same way, then she should keep those memories and details to herself.
Edited 1/3/2006 2:04 pm ET by katmandoo2001