Penis measuring

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Registered: 05-18-2005
Penis measuring
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Thu, 07-14-2005 - 8:47pm

Okay, this one may seem weird, but...

before I was married, I used to really like finding out the size of the penis of the boyfriend I was dating. I know it sounds shallow, but I was just curious;) Most of the guys I dated would laugh at me when I said I wanted to measure their penis. And most of them wouldn't let me measure them unless I would make a deal to do something for them. But I have to tell you, only one of my boyfriends measured up to the size he had told me he was before being measured. All the others had exaggerated...hmmm, how come no one is surprised! :) Anyways, the biggest one was 6 and 1/4 inches and the smallest was 5 and 1/4 inches (in case anyone was curious!). And guys, please don't be offended. After all, I know plenty of guys who are really curious about bra sizes. I just want to know if anyone else is into measuring their lover's penis and how they measured up. And how did they react when you asked? I know we always made the measuring event a fun evening ;)

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Registered: 07-17-2005
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 2:14pm
Thank you for the replies. Being smaller I try to make up for it in other ways.Like oral and stamina. You said it is what actually goes inside the vaginia that counts. But if you are thrusting in and out, that would push down on your fat pad making more of the penis to go inside. I know we are talking about 1/4 of inches. Like I said it is the idea of being below average. Imagine if someone said your looks where below average or your child was below average in school. How would you feel? Now thank about that statement with your manhood. How can you tell if a women wants a bigger one. I mean before you have sex? Do you think there are certain characteristics? Or is it a crap shoot. If I am out in a club or something should I hit on to certain types of women. I read all the time women who say they are smaller and petiter are more inclined towards smaller penises. I am just wondering.
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Registered: 03-13-2005
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 2:21pm
Rick I have no idea. None! My gf is about 95# and as far as I can tell her mouth and vagina are about the same size as any other woman's. As far as "whether a woman wants a bigger one," I don't see how you could possibly tell, and it seems to me you certainly won't get the chance to find out unless you're a terrific guy to begin with ... in which case it shouldn't matter a bit.
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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 2:29pm

Hi rick4fun: (from a guy who measures 4 inch penis..)

I trained or studied how to give a good cunnilingus, and manual sex to my partner.
Other skills: sensual masssage, body massage and being a good kisser.

CONFIDENCE in your love making skills is realy necessary!
YOU also need a good attitude about yourself, sex, and lovemaking skills.

Mac

 

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 3:08pm

The only way you can tell if a woman wants a bigger


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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 5:28pm

I think that you're too worried about. Like you said, we're talking 1/4"s here, and when a penis is thrusting in and out a couple of 1/4s aren't going to be a deal breaker.

You simply can't tell which women like big penises, there is just no way of knowing. It's a crap shoot with great odds on your side though - there honestly aren't THAT many women that desperately crave a big penis. And remember, if you DO come across a woman that prefers an enormous penis don't feel so bad. After all, all those "average" guys that are only a 1/4 or a 1/2" larger than you aren't going to be the ones that she wants either. They'll be weeded out too! :-)

As already said, the overall package is what women are after - just like you are. It's not good finding a woman with a great set of breasts (depending on your personal preference the perfect set of breasts might be a b cup, not a DD) if she annoys the hell out of you, is demanding and irritating. Same for women. No good finding a guy with the perfect sized penis if he annoys the hell out of you and is irritating.

Learn to be good in bed and a considerate well-rounded guy outside of it. That'll work better than any enormous penis ever did.

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Registered: 01-02-2005
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 5:56pm

if you're "average" that means half the guys are shorter than you so why would she discard you ? She might never qualify for someone "above average" (which is 5.3" in the male white population).

Big

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 6:14pm

A woman's size has nothing to do with her preferences. Appearances can be deceiving, too.

So, yes, esentially, it is a crap shoot. But aren't all relationships, at least in the initial stages? LOL!

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Registered: 02-26-2001
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 8:04pm
Actually, it's better than that. Although I have never read where anyone has the studied the distribution shape of penis length, I think that it's very likely that has a positively skewed shape. In that case, the mean, or average, length would be larger than the median, or middle, length. That's why I've always wished that they published the median length along with the average length of the individuals in their studies. Anyway, that means that someone who has an 'average' length penis is actually bigger than most men, for what it's worth.
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Registered: 01-02-2005
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 8:41pm

thanks Rice. You obviously have some math education. I thought of using the word "median" in my post but since all I could do is say that average & median are not necessarily the same, I thought I'd best leave it out.

I wonder what the stats are for other races, I've only heard white caucasian european (german site) at 5.3" ... being Irish-English-Scottish-Amish descent I wonder what the stats are for those others.

I wonder if "black" stats are just a myth.

Judging from the various gym memberships I've had + the Japanese condom ads I think maybe Orientals might be a bit on the thinner side.

Just as certain races of women tend to have larger breasts than others, or differing nipples.

Actually being big has its downside. It doesn't make everyone happy.

Big

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 9:31pm

Hi Rick,
I know exactly how you are feeling dude. I remember when I found out the average size for guys (which matches the 5.3" figure listed in this thread) and I pulled out a ruler to see how I compared to this. (BTW - the correct way to measure is from abdomen to tip along the top side fully erect NOT pushed in.) I did this and learned that, like you, I was below average myself - and not by 1/4"s either - I was a full inch and a half below average! That was a serious surprise for a late teen to learn about themselves. I learned later that I'm considered to be a "shower" i.e. - in locker rooms I look average in size - but when I get erect I don't gain length just thickness - and since I'd never seen other guys erect I really did not know I was that much below average. I'd thought all guys were about my size erect. Naive I know but that's what I'd thought.

After this day my whole self image was turned upside down. The "below average" label really stuck in my head. It really did not help things that the next two young women I dated broke up with me because of my size. I stopped dating for several years after this. Soon I went off to college. I made lots of male and female friends there and did well in my studies. My self confidence grew. I was introduced to my future wife at school and we became great friends. Our relationship changed and we fell deeply in love. When it was time to have sex with her I was NERVOUS. I REALLY loved this woman and I did not want my size to be an issue for her. The first time she saw me erect her eyes got very wide. I was sitting down kissing her so I looked even shorter than I really am. She asked me to stand up so "I can see you better". I did so. She turned on the table lamp and looked me over carefully. "That's good. Now turn sideways so I can see your length. That's it - hold still. You have a nice length." I said - "You think so?" She thought for a moment and said, "Yes I do. A very nice length for sure. Now face me. Wow! You are really thick - I can not get my hand all the way around you you're so thick. See? I like that alot. You have a VERY handsome penis too. Thick and handsome with a very nice head. Now come closer to me so I can kiss you. (she kissed my head and then took the entire length of my penis into her mouth with ease.) "You have a VERY kissable penis. Can I be honest? I can get all of you in my mouth - the guys I've dated before were too long for me to do that. You have the perfect penis for oral sex. And I LOVE oral sex." She then gave me the absolute best oral sex I'd EVER experienced. I was a goner. That was 25 years ago.

Did I worry about my size after that? No. My wife is a nurse so she sees TONS of guys every week. Does she know I'm smaller than most? Well ... duh! Does she respect me as a man and as the father of our child? Absolutely. I quote her, "A man is soo much more than the size of his penis. That's a gentic thing you guys have no contol over. But you DO have control over who you are as a person, as a husband and as a father. And you are a bigger man there than ANY guy I ever was with."