Penis Size Remix

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Penis Size Remix
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 11:05am
I just read the Average Penis Size thread from a few days ago. There were quite a few posts I thought to be interesting. First, a reoccurring theme seemed to be that it is more important for a man to be good lover instead of being hung like a horse. My question to this is why do the two characteristics need to be independent? Wouldn't a man with a large penis have a natural advantage in becoming a good lover? Wouldn't women prefer the man with a larger penis if all other things were equal? “Hitting bottom” is supposed to be quite uncomfortable for women, but occasionally dealing with this seems better than working with the empty feeling of a small penis. I strongly agree that there are infinitely more important things than penis size when it comes to relationships, but it seems to be important for sex. Most women seem to dismiss that they might prefer the larger man if he was also a good lover. Secondly, there seemed to be a great deal of surprise that men and women might actually measure. Nearly all the guys in my dorm knew their size down to a quarter inches in college, and many girls I knew openly questioned and discussed various guys and their size. Even my wife (then fiancé) eagerly measured my length and girth when the opportunity arose. It may seem trite, but I think it is inaccurate to dismiss the importance of penis size as it relates to specifically to sex.

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In reply to: alex78
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 12:42pm

"But I think it's inaccurate to dismiss the importance of penis size as it relates to sex."

Well, yes, a penis does have to be long enough to allow for penetration but greater length is still not necessary for conception, as we know. Shorter or average-sized men become fathers, too! But with a woman's sex organ on the outside of her body, she can give herself great pleasure with her own little fingers!

"Natural advantage?" For what? The g-spot is located only a couple of inches inside the vaginal opening and the clitoris is outside, so what is the greater advantage as far as female pleasure is concerned? No doubt that some women enjoy the look of a larger penis and the fuller feeling they may get with penetration but skill is still more important than those things.

And no one in the thread, to my knowledge, EVER claimed that greater size and ability are exclusive of one another. Of course a man who is well hung can be a good lover but too often, it seems that they don't bother learning any other skills because they believe that's enough. It simply isn't for most women.

And I can understand a man measuring his own penis, if only out of curiosity, but I still believe that WAY too much importance is placed on inches. It would benefit both men, and their women, if they spent more time contemplating their partner's body and how it works rather than their own! IF they really want to become a great lover, that is! JMO.




Edited 4/27/2005 12:45 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 1:32pm

Kat hit the nail on the head.


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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 1:49pm


When it comes to sex, I do want a hard large penis. I want pressure on my vagina, I want to feel full with his member. My lover can be selfish as much as he wants, I only care about my own pleasure and I get it from hardcore sex.

When it comes to make love, then size does not matter at all. What matters is the level of intimacy, how much you care about the other getting pleasure and not just you. You get pleasure from kissing, caressing, looking at each other eyes. You just feel part of each other. The size can be a bonus.

Sincerely, I can easily separate sex from making love. And whenever I want to have rampant sex, then if I have to discriminate about men's sizes, guess who wins?

Iliana

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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 2:25pm
I totally agree with the first post and Ilina's response. I feel like soooo many women here claim that a man's penis size is irrelevant in regards to their sexual satisfaction. Alot say "my man is perfect" and "size does not matter." In actuality, I believe it matters (to some degree) to everyone. Granted some prefer bigger and others smaller, but it matters nonetheless. I believe, if you had two identical men, one with a 5" penis and one with a 6" penis most, if not all, women would choose the 6" penis. I also believe this scenario would continue up to a point (which of course would be different for different folks). 7" over 6" and perhaps even 8" over 7", but then there would be a sharp drop-off! Opinions?
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In reply to: alex78
Wed, 04-27-2005 - 3:11pm
For me size doesn't affect pleasure. I enjoy that feeling of being fulfilled when I'm extremely aroused, but even a finger will do. In fact, if DH inserts a finger while performing oral, it feels BIG! ;-) It really doesn't feel that much different than his penis(and he's well endowed). The feeling is basically the same. It probably has to do with the elasticity of the vagina. The vagina will "hug" whatever is inserted, therefore, it's all relative.
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 3:27pm

"In actuality, I believe it matters (to some degree) to everyone."

I have to disagree with that statement since it's not true in my case and never has been.
My only concern is that a man can enjoy himself in bed and is willing to hear and respond to what my needs are.

More importantly, that his focus isn't on wowing me with his size but instead with ALL his skills. My job is to be focused on HIS pleasure. Nothing would turn me off more than a "penis-centric" man who felt that all he had to do is show up.

I've had larger and I've had smaller and it simply is NOT a determining factor in my choice of lover. My overall pleasure is a reflection of my attraction to the man. And in both situations, that's been established LONG before I ever see what's inside the pants! And since I have no expectations one way or the other....it simply doesn't matter.

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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 3:33pm

"And since I have no expectations one way or the other....it simply doesn't matter."

Why is this so hard for people to comprehend? The man is the real turn-on, not his penis. tee hee

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 3:48pm

And is it also difficult for people to understand, much less believe, that some men actually prefer small breasts?

No, bigger isn't always better for everyone! IF I'm not attracted to the man, then I'm sure not attracted to his penis...no matter how big it is! LOL!




Edited 4/27/2005 3:53 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 3:55pm

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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 4:03pm
...Let's call it "internet masturbation"...you know...**beating** IT to death. ;-)
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )

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