Penis Size Remix

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Penis Size Remix
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 11:05am
I just read the Average Penis Size thread from a few days ago. There were quite a few posts I thought to be interesting. First, a reoccurring theme seemed to be that it is more important for a man to be good lover instead of being hung like a horse. My question to this is why do the two characteristics need to be independent? Wouldn't a man with a large penis have a natural advantage in becoming a good lover? Wouldn't women prefer the man with a larger penis if all other things were equal? “Hitting bottom” is supposed to be quite uncomfortable for women, but occasionally dealing with this seems better than working with the empty feeling of a small penis. I strongly agree that there are infinitely more important things than penis size when it comes to relationships, but it seems to be important for sex. Most women seem to dismiss that they might prefer the larger man if he was also a good lover. Secondly, there seemed to be a great deal of surprise that men and women might actually measure. Nearly all the guys in my dorm knew their size down to a quarter inches in college, and many girls I knew openly questioned and discussed various guys and their size. Even my wife (then fiancé) eagerly measured my length and girth when the opportunity arose. It may seem trite, but I think it is inaccurate to dismiss the importance of penis size as it relates to specifically to sex.

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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 6:55pm
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 7:00pm

Alex, I agree with you...filling the vagina provides a great deal of satisfaction...at least it does for me, even though there may be no nerve endings beyond a certain point. Whatever the reason a large one feels good.

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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 8:25pm

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 2:11am
Hey alex78,
Your second post told me alot more about your situation. I think penis size gets alot of press because we guys are so external and just plain "out there" to check out. What's missing from most people's viewpoint on a couple's "sexual fit" is the size of the woman's vagina. How big is she? Now if that were as easily measureable as a guy's penis is this message board would be full of posts like "my gf has a 7.5"er. what should I do?" and so forth. Women come in as many sizes as we guys do! (I know this from alot of experience.) You are plenty big for most ladies alex - your wife has a larger vagina than most. So to state that ALL women prefer larger sized guys does not ring true for many women (as you can see from the previous posts). True for some? Yes - some women can handle bigger guys - and some really do NEED bigger guys. I've dated a few myself. (A friend of mine calls them "cave women - she's like being inside a cave - can't touch the sides she's so big". Now that's a bit harsh but you get the gist.) I've dated one woman who I just could not penetrate because of my thicker girth. We tried several times and just gave up. And for one woman I was too small to fit her well. We all come in different sizes and that's OK - there really is someone for everyone out there. I can tell you when you love someone deeply and you two "fit" like a glove - it's incredible.
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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 8:09am

Hello,

I agree with you and with Alex. We all come in different sizes, but it is also true that if women could choose, the majority would choose a large penis. In most of the sexual fantasies we usually imagine a well endowed man, or are there women who get a turn on thinking of a small penis?.
At the end of the day, it might not matter but it is the first impression we get, it is the package.
Somebody who thinks that size does not matter, mentioned that this topic has been discussed at nauseum. If so many people have an opinion about the size, then it means that it is an issue of concern.

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 8:34am

>>but it is also true that if women could choose, the majority would choose a large penis<<
If I could design the perfect man, (complete with perfect personality) I wouldn't choose a large penis....I'd choose an average sized one. Why? Because I can relax and enjoy without worrying about being impaled.

>>In most of the sexual fantasies we usually imagine a well endowed man, or are there women who get a turn on thinking of a small penis?. <<
Who is *we*? The size of a man's penis doesn't make it into my fantasies. I tend to rely on aspects such as chemistry when I fantasise.

>>At the end of the day, it might not matter but it is the first impression we get, it is the package.<<
Again, who is *we*? I do hope you're not speaking on my behalf. I've never formed a first impression of a naked, erect man. *My* first impression of a man is made when he has his clothes on. I rely on things such a smile, conversation, presentation and chemistry to make my impression. If he makes a good first, second, third impression...then I will get to sex. And by then, I don't care what size he is.

Regarding other comments on this thread:

Agree with Mrs Para: size isn't an issue till it hurts. And yes, like Kat - a large penis is a bit too close to the pain of childbirth for my comfort. Even the thought of being stretched that far makes the scar tissue on my pereneum quiver with fear.

Generally speaking I've had big and I've had small. I've had big lovers who were great and I've had big lovers who were lousy. I've had small lovers who were great and small lovers who were lousy. But there is one constant that makes sex great for me: that is a combination of love, chemistry and skill.

I can tell you that I've *never* had meaningless sex that was mindblowing. No matter how much he fills me, I still leave the act feeling *empty*

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 9:23am

I agree with the poster that mentioned the "fit"..Alex said he has a girth of 6" around...That is very large..On the-penis.com that is in the 99% percentile..If his wife desires more girth than that, then maybe she has a larger than average vagina.
Ive been with women who I fit well with, and some Ive been to big for and some who were too big for me.To me, a man, the fit does matter, and I would think it may be the same for some women.

But by and large MOST women were a good fit..Im a little longer than average and thicker than average.
Why do I think the fit is important?..I have a simalar opinion as aisha has...while having sex with my DW I dont want to be worrying about if Im going too deep and might be hurting hurt her... Or I dont want to have to use "special" positions just so I can get some friction. If the fit is good, we can just have sex..without concerns.

Sure size matters to some, but that doesnt necessarly mean "BIG" it might mean "FIT"

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 9:28am

I have a problem with the *we* word, you have to speak for YOU, not for me, or for any other woman.


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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 9:49am
Ladies, if you asked your DH if you looked "fat in the dress", you would expect the reply "no". Anything else would be insulting. And your DH will not say "yes" unless he wants to sleep on the couch! Honesty is not always the right policy. That being said, most women do not want to admit to their DH or SO that they like a larger penis (I'm generalizing, not everyone applies). Hey, if it weren't true to a certain extent, why are there all these posts dedicated to it? I am 6 in length and 6 in girth. I am uncircumsized, so I'm sure the girth is due to the extra skin. yes - men do measure. Unfortunately, for us it's the measurement of our "manhood", just like women know there cup size. Anyway, sometimes I'm too big for my wife and sometimes I feel like I'm sinking in quicksand. It all depends on the mood and physical reactions. One thing she has told me is that past lovers (previous to our marriage obviously) who had smaller penis didn't feel as good as mine, because a larger one (not necessarily longer) is in contact with more nerve at the same time. It isn't as much as how deep it's inserted, it's the feelings generated as it is being moved back and forth. We all know the majority of the nerves are at the entrance to the vagina, so it's accurate to say that a thicker penis will stimulate more of those nerve endings than a skinnier one, and that a longer penis can create a longer "stroke" with less reversals, as long as the longer penis doesn't hit the cervix that is, which I've done in certain positions and can tell you she did not like that at all!
The old addage "it's the motion of the ocean, not the size of the boat" is pretty close, however, I think everyone agrees that a kayak won't handle the "swells" as well as a yacht.
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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 10:10am

This is exactly what I don't get about this "debate." Somebody says it matters, then, as issytish says, the same 3 or 4 people shoot back saying it doesn't, then 30 posts later it comes down to both sides saying,"you can't speak for all women." Well, geez! Where was that concept from the beginning?

I like what I like, you like what you like, and she likes what she likes. If I like big, I like big. If somebody else doesn't care, they don't care. Why can't that be the end of it? Even the "size doesn't matter" posts usually have some condition of, "sure SOME women MAY enjoy bigger." Fine. Then spare me all the multi-part dissertations about why it SHOULDN'T matter and how men with big penises are usually dolts in bed, women who enjoy a little size must not know their own bodies, and if you have a REAL relationship, the physical stuff should simply be irrelevant.

It's like the person said a couple of days ago: the people who seem the most annoyed by these discussions are the ones who perpetuate them. Why not just say "I disagree," leave it at that, and let the blasted threads die?

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