Penis Size Remix

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Penis Size Remix
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 11:05am
I just read the Average Penis Size thread from a few days ago. There were quite a few posts I thought to be interesting. First, a reoccurring theme seemed to be that it is more important for a man to be good lover instead of being hung like a horse. My question to this is why do the two characteristics need to be independent? Wouldn't a man with a large penis have a natural advantage in becoming a good lover? Wouldn't women prefer the man with a larger penis if all other things were equal? “Hitting bottom” is supposed to be quite uncomfortable for women, but occasionally dealing with this seems better than working with the empty feeling of a small penis. I strongly agree that there are infinitely more important things than penis size when it comes to relationships, but it seems to be important for sex. Most women seem to dismiss that they might prefer the larger man if he was also a good lover. Secondly, there seemed to be a great deal of surprise that men and women might actually measure. Nearly all the guys in my dorm knew their size down to a quarter inches in college, and many girls I knew openly questioned and discussed various guys and their size. Even my wife (then fiancé) eagerly measured my length and girth when the opportunity arose. It may seem trite, but I think it is inaccurate to dismiss the importance of penis size as it relates to specifically to sex.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: alex78
Thu, 04-28-2005 - 10:39am

"Anyway, sometimes I'm too big for my wife and sometimes I feel like I'm sinking in quicksand. It all depends on the mood and physical reactions."

That is one of the major reasons why a woman may feel loose. The amount and consistency of her natural lubricant(which can vary with the time of her cycle) and the type and height of her arousal.

The vagina has three layers. Below the vaginal walls is the vascular layer which very much like the penis, becomes engorged with blood. I think of it as the female erection(only it's inside). When that layer becomes extremely engorged, the vaginal walls becomes extra sensitive which creates the urge to be fulfilled. If I'm extremely aroused, I crave deep insertion and resistance. Don't men have different strengths of erections and arousals? Can't he orgasm in all of those states or is the arousal always the same? I know for me it's not. I have clitoral central arousal and then the deeper vaginal arousal. The majority of times I orgasm from clitoral central arousal, but every once in a while(and I can't recreate these) I'll get to this extreme arousal where, every inch of my genitals from clitoris, vulva, and vagina feel as though they'll explode. The pressure is so immense. When he inserts I can almost orgasm with just a few strokes because of the tightness(extra hugging due to the engorgemetn). I can feel those strokes from top to bottom. Where as in a usual arousal, I could probably skip on intercourse altogether. Weird huh? My point is that if I'm right, and the vagina is actually very much like a penis only in reverse(or even if it's not) where it actually becomes erect depending on the amount of arousal, then the amount and type of arousal will contribute to the "feel" inside. You mentioned "mood" which is what I suppose you meant to mean strength of arousal. So too much lubrication, too slippery lubrication and the type of arousal and amount of arousal can all contribute to how "different" intercourse will feel, even with the same woman.

Incidentally, the stats show that most men will orgasm within 3 to 5 minutes? I know from the men I've been with including DH that that's fairly accurate. Wouldn't that number not only be higher, but also include stats on how many men DON'T orgasm from intercourse, if "fit" was so imperative? If anything, men have to "hold" back from orgasming on average. That would seem to mean, that it was pretty good. ;-)

I think that the elasticity of the one-size-fits-all vagina to accommodate anything from a pencil to a baby's head is versatile enough to "adjust" to whatever size is inserted, and make for a perfect fit for most. It's a potential space not a hole. And it's walls are closed when not in use. Most ALL vaginas are created equal. They only vary slightly in length but not in width. Which is why I suspect that it's more about these other factors. As you have(and I have too) experienced, the same woman and man can have varying results.




Edited 4/29/2005 8:20 am ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
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In reply to: alex78
Thu, 04-28-2005 - 11:28am

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In reply to: alex78
Thu, 04-28-2005 - 12:20pm

Absolutely agree!

It's amazing that this thread appears and reappears on this board and never seems to progress beyond the same argument....namely that those to whom size matters so much refuse to believe that it's possible NOT to care about it. Well, believe it.

But, no one, man nor woman, can tell ME what I would choose or what I would prefer. So, let's just leave it at that.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
In reply to: alex78
Thu, 04-28-2005 - 1:17pm
Tish & Kat, it is quite obvious from your multiple posts that penis size is NOT important to you and that y'all think this topic gets beat to death! So why not just ignore this topic and choose to respond to others. Maybe some folks want to discuss penis size. If that's not you then move on... I'm not trying to sound like a jerk just making a point.
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In reply to: alex78
Thu, 04-28-2005 - 1:46pm

>It's amazing that this thread appears and reappears on this board and never seems to >progress beyond the same argument....namely that those to whom size matters so much >refuse to believe that it's possible NOT to care about it.

Gotta disagree there. If anyone has an "I'm right and you're wrong" attitude in all this, it's not the occassional, "Bigger is better" poster.

Look at this very thread. 34 messages and counting, the vast majority from the same handful of folks who, instead of just simply saying "Well, it doesn't matter to me" and leaving it at that, feel the need to explain over and over again all the social, anatomical, and emotional reasons why size doesn't matter to them and therefore shouldn't to anyone else, and if anyone *does* have a preference for big, it must be because she has a mutant vagina, doesn't know what she's doing, has a lousy partner, or simply doesn't understand what sex is all about.

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Registered: 08-12-2004
In reply to: alex78
Thu, 04-28-2005 - 2:05pm
It's all relevant.
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In reply to: alex78
Thu, 04-28-2005 - 3:29pm
Thanks Luv and yes, it is.
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In reply to: alex78
Thu, 04-28-2005 - 3:41pm
If people want to discuss the subject to death, that's fine but when someone responds to me, questioning MY own view or worse, begins generalizing for ALL women or ALL men, then I will throw in my 2 cents.
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In reply to: alex78
Thu, 04-28-2005 - 3:47pm
Sorry, but I challenge you to produce such a post of mine. I have never said or hinted at any of those things you mentioned and have always acknowledged that some women enjoy larger penises. My argument is that the same acknowledgement is not given to those of us who claim that size isn't an issue.
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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: alex78
Thu, 04-28-2005 - 5:02pm
testy...aren't we? ;-)
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )

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