Penis Size Remix
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Penis Size Remix
| Wed, 04-27-2005 - 11:05am |
I just read the Average Penis Size thread from a few days ago. There were quite a few posts I thought to be interesting. First, a reoccurring theme seemed to be that it is more important for a man to be good lover instead of being hung like a horse. My question to this is why do the two characteristics need to be independent? Wouldn't a man with a large penis have a natural advantage in becoming a good lover? Wouldn't women prefer the man with a larger penis if all other things were equal? “Hitting bottom” is supposed to be quite uncomfortable for women, but occasionally dealing with this seems better than working with the empty feeling of a small penis. I strongly agree that there are infinitely more important things than penis size when it comes to relationships, but it seems to be important for sex. Most women seem to dismiss that they might prefer the larger man if he was also a good lover. Secondly, there seemed to be a great deal of surprise that men and women might actually measure. Nearly all the guys in my dorm knew their size down to a quarter inches in college, and many girls I knew openly questioned and discussed various guys and their size. Even my wife (then fiancé) eagerly measured my length and girth when the opportunity arose. It may seem trite, but I think it is inaccurate to dismiss the importance of penis size as it relates to specifically to sex.

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"Actually, I still like the Taoism (sp?) view on it all...VERY insightful. Maybe he'll chime in on this."
Para, I assume you mean me (and I probably should be "taoist" with a small "t").
My personal view is really the view of Mrs. taoist and based on her and our experience. She has had 25 partners in her life. Three were "large" (one XL) and one was "very small" ( index finger size). Size mattered for these guys. The "very small" guy she couldn't feel at all. The "large" guys were uncomfortable and Mr XL almost impossible.
All the other guys (including me) were "average" and size made no difference at all.
One of the large guys was her 2nd husband. They were together for 10 years and had sex almost daily. She never orgasmed with him and didn't really enjoy it much. Sometimes his size hurt her and they used certain positions to lessen this. Fortunately he finished in five minutes so her ordeal wasn't too long.
Now , I'm a little over 6" and "girthy" (never measured that). She didn't orgasm( from intercourse) with me until we had been together for about six months. From that time her orgasms from penetration have grown steadily stronger and more satisfying until now she greatily prefers them to oral or digital. Now, my size didn't change, but her pleasure did, so I have to assume there were a number of factors contributing and that SIZE is definitely not one of them.
That's our personal view on it all.
As to the "Taoist" view, in the sense of the Taoist philosophical and sexual tradition, from what I've read, penis size is not considered very important. I believe one of the quotes is, "It is better to be small and hard, than large and soft". The Taoists put a lot of stress on satisfying the woman by "getting her fires burning" first with lots of ways to arouse her (including oral and digital) and also with sustaining and varying the stroking during intercourse in order to stimulate her to multiple orgasms. They also put great emphasis on the emotional aspects and stress that truely great sex can only occur within a great relationship with a single partner.
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taoistnovice you said..."They also put great emphasis on the emotional aspects and stress that truely great sex can only occur within a great relationship with a single partner."
I would add to that the word "WORTHWHILE" as in truely great worthwhile sex... Casual sex can be mind blowing sex too.
you're getting me all worked up
:) Have a great day!!! everyone!
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