Penis Size Remix
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Penis Size Remix
| Wed, 04-27-2005 - 11:05am |
I just read the Average Penis Size thread from a few days ago. There were quite a few posts I thought to be interesting. First, a reoccurring theme seemed to be that it is more important for a man to be good lover instead of being hung like a horse. My question to this is why do the two characteristics need to be independent? Wouldn't a man with a large penis have a natural advantage in becoming a good lover? Wouldn't women prefer the man with a larger penis if all other things were equal? “Hitting bottom” is supposed to be quite uncomfortable for women, but occasionally dealing with this seems better than working with the empty feeling of a small penis. I strongly agree that there are infinitely more important things than penis size when it comes to relationships, but it seems to be important for sex. Most women seem to dismiss that they might prefer the larger man if he was also a good lover. Secondly, there seemed to be a great deal of surprise that men and women might actually measure. Nearly all the guys in my dorm knew their size down to a quarter inches in college, and many girls I knew openly questioned and discussed various guys and their size. Even my wife (then fiancé) eagerly measured my length and girth when the opportunity arose. It may seem trite, but I think it is inaccurate to dismiss the importance of penis size as it relates to specifically to sex.

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Edited 4/29/2005 12:04 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
"I would add to that the word "WORTHWHILE" as in truely great worthwhile sex...
Casual sex can be mind blowing sex too."
I'm not sure what you mean by "WORTHWHILE", but the feeling and the sharing and the familiarity that the Taoists are talking about take sex to a higher level. They say it takes 7 years to get to know your partner physically, 7 years to get to know her mentally, and 7 years to get to know her spiritually - 21 years in all.
I suppose casual sex can be mind-blowing, but the odds are against it, especially for women.
I've had some rather casual sex I thought was pretty good , and it was good compared to what I was getting at the time ( i.e., none). I especially thought the first few times and even months with DW (before marriage) were mind-blowing, and they were - at the time. But now I realize how much we've evolved and how much better it is than it was at first.
taoist
Well...of course if I'm about to orgasm, then he's not going anywhere...tee hee That goes for any kind of stimuli. It's my responsiblity to relate that in whatever manner I can. ;-) The tease, is just that the tease. I never know when he's going to switch off. And while he's doing one, I may want the other(that's a woman for ya ;-), but at some point at any given time, if the moment of truth erupts, he's going to know it. That isn't the only way to prolong his orgasm either. Our typical sessions are very mixed with manual for both, manual to oral, oral to oral and of course, intercourse. It's all foreplay because we never know where we'll end up.
It's good that you can last that long in one long-winded succession, but DH can't.
Edited 4/29/2005 5:13 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
>Sorry, but I challenge you to produce such a post of mine. I have never said or hinted at any of those things you mentioned and have always acknowledged that some women enjoy larger penises.
And I didn't say you said anything. I said a "same handful of posters." If you don't fall into that group, don't take any offense.
>My argument is that the same acknowledgement is not given to those of us who claim that size isn't an issue.
And that's specifically where I disagree. On occassion, yes, someone has said something along the lines of "anybody who says differently is lying," but the VAST majority of the time--including the two most recent size-related threads the past few days--nobody's claiming to speak for anybody but themselves. Invariably, though, someobody still trots out the same "it shouldn't matter because..." lecture, strongly implying that the person who cares about size must either have a strange anatomy, a deficient relationship, or not know what they're doing in bed. Those generalizations are no more right than saying "what every woman REALLY wants is a wrist-thick 8-incher," but they're a heck of a lot more prevalent and accepted in these discussions. That's all I'm saying; it's no personal knock on you at all. I'm sorry if it came out that way.
66 posts and counting...
Taoist, what I meant by worthwhile is the opposite of meaningless...a higher level, something more than a handshake with an orgasm...
If the taoist think it takes 21 years to know someone, they must be slow learners.(jk)
Casual sex on a physical level can be hot...but it does pale on an emotional level. To me sex is both physical and emotional (mental)..Maybe thats why I have a hard time understanding why some people prefer to have non-relationship type sex only. They are missing the best part!.
As for penis size mattering....My take is this..for some people it might matter, for some people it doesnt....If one were to ask a man if vagina size matters, most guys would probably say yes, they would prefer a nice snug fit....So if hes large he may like a large vagina, and if hes small he might like a small vagina....So with women the same may be true.
If the vagina wasnt a perfect fit, would it be a deal breaker?..probably not If I loved her.
A lot of guys enjoy the proper fit , not just from a friction point of view, but so they dont have to worry about hurting her if her vagina is too shallow for his length(what ever it is) we men tend to get lost in ourselves during the hard and fast lovemaking...the last thing I want to worry about is being extra careful...I would think many women feel the same way...Most vaginas are of average size and most penises are also...hummm I wonder why?
"If the Taoists think it takes 21 years to know someone, they must be slow learners.(jk)"
No, not slow. Just incredibly deep and complete learners about the one they love and care passionately for.
taoist
Hi humpdaddy:
I don't remember which philosophy:
Hi worrieddadof3:
With my wife and I, sensual massage is nice.
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