Penis!

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Penis!
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Fri, 07-01-2005 - 1:34pm

Hi, I've never posted on this board before, but I thought this was appropriate for this board.


Scientific studies seemed to have more objectivity in determining the average length of a man's penis.

 

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Registered: 12-20-2004
In reply to: jman75
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 11:57am
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No doubt kat love helps a person overlook our mates imperfections (thank God)
But as for the perfect fit I was referring to in an earlier post...
My wife had a bf who was on the smaller side, said it really didnt do anything for her either visually, or physically(admitedly he wasnt a good lover in any area)..She also said she has had a bf who was 9" and his constant banging of her cervix wasnt a good thing...She likes a penis that is visually stimulating (length wise), on the thick side, but not long enough to hit her cervix.
I, on the other hand, like a woman who isnt too tight because of my thickness, and deep enough that I dont have to worry about hitting her cervix as we get carried away and start going at it kind of hard and fast (at times). Both of us got our wishes on the physical side, and the emotions have just made what was good for us, GREAT.
At one time I loved my ex, but she was very tight, so lube was almost always a necessity, she only liked missionary , and was not very deep so I always had to be careful of "hitting bottom"..I loved her so I adjusted, but with my now DW sex is soooooo much better because the fit is better, for both of us.
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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: jman75
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 12:01pm
...sounds as though your ex had some sexual issues which could be why she was so tight. Also, sometimes it's a constant spiral...it was tight the first time and it hurt, so she tenses up each and every time(subconsciously that is). I could be wrong, but when you said she only liked missionary and she was tight, it could mean that she was deepy "uptight" about sex in general.
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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In reply to: jman75
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 12:06pm

"Our mate's imperfections?" No....their differences.

None of us have imperfections. We're all made according to order, for someone.

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In reply to: jman75
Fri, 07-08-2005 - 6:17pm
rain , we were married over 25 yrs.. at first she liked sex, but soon after the wedding she got cold....I felt dupped...She was tight, even when well lubed ..she enjoyed having oral sex..she wasnt a prude, just a very low libido.You hear of women who act like they CRAVE sex, hook their man then it all changes ..well that was her to a Tee...My Dw now really does have a high libido, and we make beautiful music together..lol
I left for various reasons, but I waited till my kid got her athletic scholarship and went off to college. Trust me, when libidos do not match and the one with the lessor desire wont negotiate, it leads to all kinds of resentment...Both in and out of the bedroom...
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In reply to: jman75
Fri, 07-08-2005 - 6:19pm
maybe imperfections wasnt the right word....they are only imperfections if you were expecting perfection.(and i know perfect people..lol)
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Registered: 12-24-2003
In reply to: jman75
Sat, 07-09-2005 - 12:00am

Wow, three penis related threads going at the same time, and no flame wars!!

Didn't know which one to post this, but since hump's been talking about fit I thought I'd share a quote I read from a guy's girlfriend:

"Just right and almost too big are the same thing."

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In reply to: jman75
Sat, 07-09-2005 - 1:00am
Well, that's ONE opinion.
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In reply to: jman75
Sat, 07-09-2005 - 11:29am

Kat,

You're a very good person. The problem is you're so idealistic. You don't seem to relate to the practical applications of the real world. To understand what happens to many guys.

(What I'm about to say isn't about penis enlargement per se. Your recent post of just not understanding why many guys want to be bigger, and would go to the trouble to do so, shows you don't fully understand.)

Nevermind all the input by women on tv that penis size matters, like a tv program I was watching with a big crowd of women in an audience and the vast majority hollored out yes when asked if bigger is better. Nevermind so many well known women now in the television industry saying point blank bigger is better--like Janet Jackson who said in a well known interview that once she realises a guy isn't hung she makes an excuse to end the date and that her girlfriends, who she said all do that also if he isn't endowed, told her about good excuses they use. Madonna who said, on The Arsenio Hall Show I was watching one night, that she was attracted to him I can recall his name later if you want to know.
The list goes on and on the female stars I can name-Britney Spears publically laughed at Timberlake's penis size, and said her current hubby Federline is 10 times better. If you want a list I can produce it.

But nevermind all that. Nevermind back in school the girls becoming wide eyeed when word gets around so and so is big. Nervermind the parties where the chicks zero in on a guy once word gets around so and so is endowed.

All that, from boyhood into adulthood, for years and years, instills into our heads size does count. Yet it usually doesn't stop us from pursuing.

Then what do you know. Here we've pretty much overcome all the cultural input that size counts, but we haven't totally forgotten, but at least we aren't letting it stop us, and then along the way something happens in our personal life to back all that up. You ought to see the tons of posts I've read by guys that have been burnt by women during their lives because of their penis size. Detailed, very true stories. I've posted a few of my own sexual encounters amongst those. I've only been truly burnt by 2 women (one was a bona fide size queen), but I've had others that wished I was bigger, in a nice polite indirect way they said it. I was about 6 1/4 bone pressed x 4 3/4 base girth and 4 1/2 mid girth when I had sex with 12 women.

I'm married now and she and I were together when I was that size. I'm now 7 3/8 bone pressed x 5 base girth and 4 3/4 mid girth. Unless I was really working at angling and grinding to make sure I was rubbing her clitoris and trying to get the g spot during intercourse, when we were first together she couldn't get off at all. Even trying to make sure I was doing that it took a lot of time and effort fort her to orgasm. Even then she would lay quiet until orgasm time and only then snort some. Now at a bigger size, she makes a responsive sound now and then during intercourse, but the main difference is the sort of intense enjoyment look on her face that use to not be there. It's not intense intense, that's why I say sort of. She orgasms somewhat quicker, and she talks now at times during intercourse where she use to not, like "DO IT DO IT" nowdays.
I really have no doubt in my mind that by getting more thickness she'll react more intensely. She's said she loves thickness. She also could use more length and enjoys that too. Yes, we've discussed it. She doesn't like to talk about it much, so we don't, but she's never been negative toward me about it. It's just honesty that I asked from her. It's not like it's an important part of the relationship to her. She's not a size queen per se, but it does make a difference to her, even if not important to her. I think many women fall into this category. They don't dwell on it like men do, and it doesn't matter much to them, but there is no denying sex is enhanced with more size. Men dwell on it because we are competitive and don't like the idea that she's been with another guy that was better, even if the sex is good in our relationship. Some guys do a good job of not thinking about it. They know it's a possibility she's been worked over better in bed by someone else that involved more than just good foreplay and technique, but pretty much wipe it from their minds. Like I asked greenteabag, when she kept saying she would take an average size that knows how to use it over big that doesn't, what happens when big knows how also? The very way she was saying it implied size matters. Why not just say she would take average over big. Or why not say she would take average that knows how over big that knows how. By giving the average guy the extra advantage of technique, when comparing, showed the feeling that such was needed.

There are indeed women that are as strongly voiced as you Kat that size doesn't matter at all to them. I believe that many of these ladies that say that are right about that for themselves. However, I have no doubt that some of the ladies that say that just have never met a big guy that also knew what he was doing. Some of them that say that have had a bad experience of perhaps being impaled by a guy that didn't warm them up and tried to drive them through the bed. I believe some just have never experienced a big one and don't want to think it could make a difference.

This isn't about intercourse per se, but let me add a story here about my last point of some ladies just not knowing what they like yet: Even though my erect size is just gained 1 1/8 " length x 1/4" girth so far, my flaccid (soft) size has gained a couple of inches in length, and tend to be about 5 1/2 inches bone pressed flaccid. I can wear my penis in my pants hanging down off center and show a fairly decent flaccid bulge when I want to. I get a lot of attention from ladies and have even been followed by some chicks before. Anyway, about my point, I once walked into a fast food place and four ladies were sittig at a table eating. I was standing in line waiting to place my order and I could see them looking and talking. One in particular looked really mesmerized and finally I heard one of the ladies say to her "What's that look on your face? I thought you said it didn't matter?". She didn't answer and just continued with a glazed mesmerized wide eyed smile on her face.

I believe you and I also believe some other women that it doesn't matter at all. But I also believe most women can get more pleasure from an above average size that uses it well---but that it's also not important to them. I also believe some women it matters much to (size queens) and that there are more of these women then previously thought. Women are much more outspoken, more independent, than ever before. So we're finding out more about the number of size queens.

So tell me one more time why I and other guys shouldn't want a bigger dick, and why it's not worth the effort to grow. You are facing much more than you realise in trying to convince us that.

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In reply to: jman75
Sat, 07-09-2005 - 11:36am
His name came to me-Warren Beatty.
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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: jman75
Sat, 07-09-2005 - 12:08pm

...as far as Hollywood....my theory is that stating that "penis size matters" is just revenge for "beauty matters." tee hee Think about it. Hollywood women are judged and rated all of the time, they simply found a way to turn it onto the men who do it. At least that's how it sounds. Somewhere, somebody figured out a way to do it while a man is still dressed--evaluate his flaccid bulge size. Which makes absolutely no sense because there are growers instead of showers(although it's true that a flaccid penis that is 7" would in the least be 7").

Your wife's responses are probably just because she's more comfortable with you sexually. I doubt that an inch or even two made that much of a difference. How do YOU get anything out of sex if you're reading so much into it? ;-) You're obsessing about something that she isn't most likely even concerned about.

It's...."Revenge of the Insecure." Their goal in life is to make men feel insecure and get back at them for the high standards that they have had to live up to. From the posts on these boards, it seems to work. ;-)




Edited 7/9/2005 12:43 pm ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )

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