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perplexed in new relationship?
| Tue, 01-11-2005 - 10:34am |
I NEED HELP ASAP!!! I just got started in a new relationship, its been 2 mths now... and we havent had much sex or hookedup much... maybe like twice a week... but we hang out all the time... but the past month.. he has been always tired... needing to take naps after work...and just not wanting to have sex or even hookup with me... I told him that it honestly looks iike he's getting it elsewhere.. or that it just me. I haven't been able to orgasim at all with him... I told him I feel like me not being able to have one is making it uncomfortable for him to even wanna hook up with me now!!! He said nooo thats not it.. hes just always tired.. doesnt have a sex drive... but hes in his early 20's.. this shouldnt happen!!!! So now.. in my eyes...he tired all the time... can't really get hard.. doesn't seem excited or to desire me in that sexual way when we're toghter... but I mean we do that snuggling, laying toghether, the holding.... but this not wanting to have sex with me is making me feel like its me.. I now feel unattractive.. not sexy.. and its making me feel uncomfortable trying to ininiate sex!!! What should I do!! What do you think is going on!! please help..... o and FYI.. he does take anxiety meds and smoke pot a bit.... could that be interferring with his sex drive... I am a realistic person.. so people please hit me with honesty and the truth as to what you think is going on here!!! THANKS IN ADVANCE TO ALL!!!

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>>I hope you guys understood tho where this insecurity waa coming from based on the situation at hand!!!<<
Honestly, I *don't* understand where your insecurity was coming from. You've told us nothing to indicate that he's cheating on you. You could have read a number of different reasons into the situation, but you *chose* to believe that he was cheating rather than giving him the trust he deserves.
A man or his actions can't make you insecure - your insecurities would already have been there to start with. I would suggest that while he's sorting himself out, that you should do the same. During relationships, you will encounter many problems - and faith in yourself and your partner is a must if you wish to address the issues without doing more damage.
>>I will do everything possible to make him feel de-stressed and at ease<<
While it may be nice for him to be pampered, it's not going to fix the problem....or make it go away. HE must take responsiblity for his actions and HE must seek medical assistance. Quite frankly, there is not much you can do to help him until he starts to help himself.
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