Phone Sex

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Registered: 04-10-2008
Phone Sex
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Thu, 04-17-2008 - 12:58pm

I am happily married with 2 wonderful children. I would never cheat on my dh. However, yesterday a good guy friend of mine suggested that since we both were hot for each other but would never act on it that we'd explore the workd of phone sex. I never did that before and it was really hot. Anywho, I was so hot that as soon as I saw my dh lastnight afterwork I jumped him... omg.


So, now here's my concern. Is it cheating? I do feel a little guilty but it is really just intense flirting. I know that it gave my dh a crazy nigh in bed and he could barely catch his breath.


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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: ekiss0627
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 2:05pm

Welcome to the board, ekiss0627.

I think it's up to each couple to set the boundaries of their relationship. To determine if phone sex is cheating within your relationship, you might want to ask yourself some questions. Things like:

- How would you feel the tables were turned and your DH did this with another female?

- How would your DH feel about you doing this? Would the partner you chose make a difference?

- Would it be different if your DH was present while you did this? (As in he might thinks it's okay if he's there and part of the action vs. not okay if he's not involved.)

- Is it something that you're reluctant to tell your DH about because you think he might not approve?

If you're not sure how your DH would feel about it, you could ask him his feelings or present him with a scenario and see what his thoughts are.

I don't think whether anyone here thinks it's cheating or not really matters. What matters is what works or doesn't work within your own relationship.







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Registered: 01-24-2007
In reply to: ekiss0627
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 2:07pm
sorry, I cant set your mind at ease.
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Registered: 03-04-2008
In reply to: ekiss0627
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 2:09pm

So, now here's my concern. Is it cheating?


Okay...to most people in a committed relationship...yes, it's cheating.

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Registered: 03-03-2008
In reply to: ekiss0627
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 3:17pm

My answer is pretty much the same as everyone esle here.

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Registered: 02-12-2008
In reply to: ekiss0627
Thu, 04-17-2008 - 4:11pm

When I think of phone sex - I think of two people 100's of miles apart and the chances of being together are remote at best.

RJJJ


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Registered: 01-02-2008
In reply to: ekiss0627
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 5:05am

I'm not your conscience.

 

 

 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-10-2008
In reply to: ekiss0627
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 8:47am
No, we do not see each other.talk online and on the phone sometimes. I talked to him and told him that we are good friends and only friends and it will probably never happen again. Thanks to all for the insight. It is much appreciated.

Hope to hear from you soon!