Phone Sex

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Registered: 05-22-2006
Phone Sex
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Fri, 01-11-2008 - 6:20am

Hi,

Me and my BF of 9 years are taking break from each other due to a third party (from his side). We still chat once in a while. But last night chat over the phone gone wild result in he ask for phone sex. He say he wants me to touch myself and hear me moan over the phone while he masturbate. We did it. I know phone sex is normal, but what's not normal for me is this is the first time he asked for it. After 9 years, he ask for it now. Really makes me wonder where he get the idea from. Ermm... I'm really curious why he wanted phone sex so desperately, the first time he ask, I can't because I'm inconvenient to do it, he got upset, I mean REALLY upset. Any idea why he suddenly ask for phone sex? Does it mean anything special TO HIM?

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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: love_mkhoo
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 6:56am

My guess is that he's not getting sex and this is the closest thing he has right now.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: love_mkhoo
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 8:14am

Welcome to the board, love_mkhoo.

Is the third party another person he is dating? If so, then perhaps he's figuring that phone sex isn't cheating on her, perhaps he's not even having sex with her.

I agree with Tish. It sounds like he wanted the extra effects that phone sex can provide so that he was able to fantasize and masturbate himself.

If you're comfortable doing it, that's fine -- but he shouldn't be pressuring you to do something that you're either not comfortable doing or not able to do at the time. His anger is his own problem, not yours.





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Registered: 05-22-2006
In reply to: love_mkhoo
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 6:00am

Hi,

Thanks for the replies. He's not dating the OW, they broke up before I knew they were together. I can't accept him cheating on me, that's why I ask for a period alone. From both of your replies, does that mean he's not actually missing me? He just want his masturbation to be more satisfying? If he does that cause he miss me, I have no problem doing it with him. But just to satisfy himself, I don't know whether I should.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: love_mkhoo
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 7:47am

There's really no way any of us can answer why he's doing it.

If I wanted a break from my BF, then that would include a break from phone sex as well. Is it something that you're getting pleasure from too?





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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: love_mkhoo
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 9:09am

No one can tell you if he's missing you or not, that's something only he knows.

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Registered: 05-22-2006
In reply to: love_mkhoo
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 9:37am

Hi,

Thanks for the replies. Tish, your words wake me up. Complete break up or work it through it together as a couple. I guess I am hiding from the reality by asking for a temporary break up. He don't wanna talk about us and our future, and I am not ready to let go, but I guess it's time to make decision. Thanks again to you guys, Misty_mae and Tish :)




Edited 1/13/2008 12:34 pm ET by love_mkhoo