pinching him

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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 2:39pm
I live with my fiance and we have sex all the time. A couple months back, when he climaxed and expanded inside me, it was so big that my pubic bone pinched him and actually made him pee a blood clot the following morning. That had happened to him once before, but over the last couple months, it happens all the time in certain positions. After doing some research on the internet, I think that my problem is pubic bone displacement. Of course we know not to climax in those positions anymore, but is there anything that possibly the doctor or someone can do? It gets frustrating when you have to limit yourself. Please anyone reply if you have this problem or have any ideas on what can be done. Thank you! -Jessica
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Registered: 05-18-2004
In reply to: civicbabe98
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 2:47pm
Perhaps that may be something to take up with your gyno. What positions are you in that does it? Perhaps even changing the angle he enters may help. Are you sure it is you? Has he had a check up to see if this is something going on with him? Has this happened with past partners with you or him?

Leticia

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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: civicbabe98
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 3:21pm
Thanks for sharing with us, civicbabe! Hope we can help at least a little.

I'm totally onside with Leticia's reply, and am very curious about her same questions to you too. I've actually suffered a very painful pinching pain during my most extreme orgasms every once in a while. The positions include both very deep cowgirl and doggy versions.

In fact, it wasn't during the thrusting that got me, but it was during those extremely tight gripping contractions that occur during orgasm-- the thrusting. We normally grind into our climaxes as opposed to thrusting, so the penetration is super deep during the O's.

Despite the pinching pain, and boy o BOY do those things sting!, I've NEVER had blood in my urine and the stings have gone away within half a day. Is this at all to what you were describing?

YES talk to the doctor, thats my opinion. Keep reading and posting right here, but I 'strongly' encourage you to combine your inquiry with these boards as well:

Sexual Health

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhgensex

Ask Dr. Ruth

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlruth

Please keep us posted if you discover anything. This is very interesting.

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Registered: 08-09-2004
In reply to: civicbabe98
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 5:59pm
Thank you for replying to me. I've been looking to get answers and your questions have got me thinking about different things. The positions don't hurt me what-so-ever, just Nick (my fiance.) Doggie style is fine except when he climaxes because at that angle, my pubic bone (or something) pinches him. The blood clot was from a torn urethra, at least we think. That had happened to him once before with his ex and the clot was the result. When he got the clot with me, I had been sitting on him with my back facing him. So, the only time that he gets hurt is when he's coming in from behind me. We will still do these positions until he's about to climax and he'll just pull out. The positions that he needs to do this in are actually the ones that you mentioned Mr. Para, which is interesting to me.

He's the only person I've been with so I have no past experiences to compare this to. When he is inside me on some occasions, I can feel him up against that bone; however, when he seriously gets injured, I don't feel him hit it. Thinking back on when he got the clot, he felt the pinch and the sting, but nothing after that. I remember that he could not cum and the next morning when he went to the bathroom is when he had the clot. Not being able to cum was because of it. He had gone to the doctor after it happened with his ex and that's how he knew it was torn, after it happened with me, we watched it and followed what his doc. had said before. Everything turned out ok.

I feel bad if it is me hurting him, but there's nothing I can really do if it's my bone. If it's something with him, that has me worried because I have no idea what it could be. I am definately open to anything you guys can suggest or think up. Advise is always good. Thank you again for talking to me and I will keep you posted as much as possible. If you have more questions, please ask because it gets me thinking about possible solutions or incidents that might get us to where we need to be. Talk to you soon!

-Jessica

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Registered: 05-18-2004
In reply to: civicbabe98
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 6:05pm
Jessica if he had this with a past girlfriend, it's him not you. He needs to see a DR, because he may have retorn the urethra, or perhaps it didn't heal properly. Only a DR will know what is going on.

Leticia

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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: civicbabe98
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 7:12pm
I think that it's him and not you. Given that it has happened to him with a past partner I strongly suspect that the urethra has not healed correctly or that scar tissue is more likely to tear at the site of the original trauma. It also sounds like the trauma is at least as high as the base of the penis, possibly higher. It seems that it is the deep penetration positions that cause it to reoccur, and not because of any peculiarity of your body. Possibly this is because more force is applied to the base of the penis in these postions, irritating the damaged area. The more frequent reoccurence is more than likely because the area hasn't healed properly or has been weakened.

Edited to add: The pinching sensation is more than likely the pain from the damage happening inside the penis and is not from pinching against your pubic bone.

I believe that he should book himself in to see a Doctor, and probably a specialist.


Edited 8/17/2004 7:13 pm ET ET by westridge2001

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In reply to: civicbabe98
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 9:38pm
Thank you for helping us out with this. Now that all of you have mentioned that it is more than likely him, I realize that after it had been pinched with me (and we let it heal on it's own) that it constantly hurt him after that. I will talk to him later tonight in regards to seeing a doctor. I'm wondering now if it didn't heal right, how serious is the damage?! Please keep writing me on your thoughts and I will update you on what is going on here. Thanks again!

-Jessica
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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: civicbabe98
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 10:42pm
Okay Jess, if I were you, I'd CALL the doctor and get some type of opinion on it if you have trouble getting him to actually see the doctor. My own situation never got this serious, thank goodness, cause I learned from the first time that when I start to feel that tightening feeling turning into a possible pinching feeling, then I adjust or I stop the press. Waiting to hear what your/his doc has to say.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: civicbabe98
Tue, 08-17-2004 - 11:55pm
Unless you're pregnant, you don't have pubic bone displacement. During pregnancy, the whole pelvis expands to enlarge the birth canal. I don't believe a man "expands" at climax, if anything, once he's reached climax, he'd shrink.....the job is done, the blood vessels allow the blood to escape, and the erection goes away.

The constant in the situation is him. It happened before you came along. He needs to see an urologist, and find out what's going on. If something is torn, and not allowed to heal completely, he'll wind up with scar tissue, and real problems.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: civicbabe98
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 12:17am
It's impossible for us to tell how bad the damage is without him being examined, and it's unlikely that any of us have the knowledge to tell you what the consequences (if any) there will be. It is safe to say that tissue damage in a penis can possibly lead to some significant problems and it is something that he should follow up on and not just let heal naturally.
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Registered: 07-30-2004
In reply to: civicbabe98
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 1:15am
Civicbabe, I noticed that you mentioned that you sometimes use the reverse cowgirl position (girl on top, facing guy's feet). I read a study on coital trauma and that was the most dangerous position. If you two are having the same problem as the one I'm thinking of, it is caused by the woman's pubic bone crushing into the underside of the penis and injuring the urethra, as you suspected. I would agree with the other posters who said that he should see a doctor, the article mentioned that permanent impairment can result from repeated/untreated injuries. The authors concluded that most injuries resulted from postion and manner of thrusting, not with a woman's anatomical peculiarities. I would also say that, if I were you two, I would definately stay away from reverse cowgirl.

As an aside, some other results from the study. THey randomly samped injuries from intercourse that made it to the ER for both men and women. It turns out that men suffer the majority of "coital traumas" even though rapes were included in the study. In fact some guy tried to rape a woman and "Cracked/broke" his erection. How is that for swift justice?