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| Sun, 07-17-2005 - 3:36am |
I am not sure this goes here but I am also unsure where to post this. And please don't make fun of me. I am just newly married and I was a virgin. So I have had no experience with sex. I got on birth control because I have rather rough periods. My husband and I do not use condoms. However, this has brought up a problem because I have no idea what to do when he ejaculates inside me. Is there an etiquette? I like to be on top and I have no idea what to do? It just leaks out and I am embarrassed. Please help with some suggestions? What do other women do?

Calvmorr, please don't feel embarressed. That's perfectly normal for his ejaculation to leak out afterward. That's normal, in fact and happens to me,as well.
As for 'etiquette,' I'm not really sure any applies. It's the comfort level(which you don't have currently, yet you WILL) between you and your new husband.
If it leaks out a lot, simply wipe yourself or even have HIM wipe you. There is more to 'intimacy' then merely sexual intercourse and sex/lovemaking, PERIOD. For him to do this, could provide you both with higher levels of intimacy..sharing this 'after the moment' time together, kwim?
Take a shower together, to clean up afterward. That would be fun, too :)
You'll do fine! Promise :)
IF the leaking bothers you that much, take a quick trip to the bathroom, pop in a tampon for half an hour or so and that should take care of THAT!
But sex is messy and much of the fluids you're leaking are HIS, so why should YOU be embarrassed? I'm sure most of us simply grab a couple of tissues off the nightstand and dry off.
Edited 7/18/2005 2:01 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
I wouldn't feel embarassed at all, but I do understand that you are new at sex and what's normal to all of us who have been doing it for years may seem awkward to you. I usually go right to the bathroom after sex and clean up and then I cuddle with dh afterwards. Everyone is so different in what they like or don't like. If you don't want it to leak out and it embarasses you, clean it up. If you and dh don't really care about it, don't worry so much about it coming out.
I personally don't enjoy the leaking feeling so I even put on a panty liner afterward. I'm probably one of very few women who do that but it's what feels best for me.
Thank you all so much! It was really comforting to hear how other women deal with it. I love my husband very much and I talked to him about everything and he very supportive to me. I am just so thankful for all the great ideas. It was just so awkward when you don't know what to expect and it being the first time and all. Everyone's experiences were very helpful.
Take care,
Alice