PLEASE HELP! Is GEejaculating an orgasm?

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PLEASE HELP! Is GEejaculating an orgasm?
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Thu, 05-31-2007 - 12:17am

Okay, so here's my problem. I'm wondering if I'm ejaculating (I'm a girl) a lot of water (and yes, it squirts) if I'm having a cliteral orgasm? Everyone says you feel a euphoric feeling and your whole body feels muscle spasms that feel great, etc. I use a vibrator on my cliterus and after a while my pelvis raises and my legs get tight and then I get tighter and I shake all over and hold it until I can't hold it anymore and I release a little and ejaculate and then it goes again quickly and I never get the feeling people say you're supposed to get all relaxed and special, etc. What's wrong with me? I've tried so many times and it's so frustrating.

HELP!!!!!

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Registered: 02-09-2007
Thu, 05-31-2007 - 12:29am

I think that you probably are having orgasms... just try and relax a bit and enjoy.

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Thu, 05-31-2007 - 1:17am

Everyone is different, and has different feelings and/or reactions. "People" can only say what THEY feel, not what everyone else feels.

Most orgasms originate from the clitoris. Most ejaculation originates from the "g" spot, which is inside your vagina. Ejaculation and orgasms are two different things. They CAN happen together, or they can happen separately. There isn't a whole lot of "feeling" with ejaculation.....except for the "warmth" from the liquid. Orgasms don't produce "liquid"....they sometimes produce lots of lubrication, a lot thicker than ejaculate.

The "relaxed" feeling that you hear about is AFTER sex.....and maybe it's not so noticeable with toys as it is with a real partner.

The point of sex or of masturbation is to enjoy it. If it's frustrating you, then you're not enjoying it. I think you're looking for something that possibly doesn't exist, except in porn, or in movies. They're NOT real life.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 05-31-2007 - 7:52am

While you may FE and orgasm together or simultaneously, the two are not the same. The feeling that you are describing does sound like an orgasm to me. The relaxed feeling that you are looking for will most likely exist with a partner, and when you allow yourself time to enjoy the feelings that you experience. This is often referred to as the afterglow.

During masturbation, you may be fantasizing, and once you have your orgasm, the fantasy ends. When you are with a partner, they are still lying there as well, which allows you to linger in the moment (so to speak). Hurrying to finish, having to clean your toys up, or being anxious about what is happening can all lead to actions that don't allow you to relax after the orgasm.



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Registered: 04-12-2007
Thu, 05-31-2007 - 1:07pm
But with a cliteral orgasm don't you feel muscle spasms all over your body, at least noticibly on the pelvis? I don't feel that. On a video I saw the girl's cliterus was pulsating. After I used a toy and ejaculated, I kept feeling down there and didn't feel it. What's going on? What do I need to do to get the muscle spasms?
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Thu, 05-31-2007 - 2:02pm

Hot Mama,


I think you are over-analyzing this whole thing and stressing yourself unnecessarily.

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Thu, 05-31-2007 - 10:30pm

Really, each orgasm is unique. There are times that I have very intense orgasms, other times, I have minor tremors. The key is to enjoy each one for what it does give you.

I can't say that every muscle in my body spasms, and my clitoris does not necessarily pulsate. I rarely FE from clitoral stimulation alone.

Why are you trying to imitate something you have seen? Not all recorded things are real.



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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 3:28pm

"isn't a whole lot of "feeling" with ejaculation.....except for the "warmth" from the liquid. Orgasms don't produce "liquid"....they sometimes produce lots of lubrication, a lot thicker than ejaculate."

I answered this somewhere else too. I totally disagree with this statement. G-spot orgasms always accomplany female ejaculation for me! I know the difference between clitoral and g-spot orgasms and I know that many articles have been written about them but I also know a LOT of women that disagree with what the MALE doctors say about the FEMALE orgasm (that there is only one kind, clitoral). I think men are just jealous :) But this of course is just my own experience (and a few other ladies that have talked about it to me).

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