Please Help!!!!! Sex really matters

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Please Help!!!!! Sex really matters
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Thu, 01-03-2008 - 5:40pm
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Registered: 01-03-2008
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 6:17pm
You just decribed my husband to a T! This is what he has been telling me although I am up for new things, and have really tried to make an effort in the enthusiasm part. He has told me it still isnt good enough. We have tried every thing, and I still am not able to please him. I wish I had some advice for you, but I am still trying to figure it out myself.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 01-04-2008 - 12:03am

Welcome to the board, jrd.

Do you know if she masturbates? Perhaps if she learned more about her own sexual responses, she would become more interested in sex. There are articles here that I can give you links to, if you think she'll read them.

There's also a great site you might want to sit down and read with her, or pass the link on to her and ask her to read the information there. It's www.the-clitoris.com.

If she's reluctant to look at information on the internet, you could try getting her a book about sex for married couples. Sometimes reading about what others do will allow a woman to realize that there is more to sex than 10 minutes of intercourse.

I don't think suggesting a 3-some (or expecting one) is the place to start. Instead of making her feel that she is failing you, it would be better to encourage her to learn more about her own body ... and to give her more experiences between the two of you.









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Registered: 12-26-2007
Fri, 01-04-2008 - 3:51pm
Im sorry i really dont have any advice but i do understand. Me and my fiance have great sex and very often but he never really wants to try kinky stuff with me. Alls i can tell you is talk to her again, see if she will sit down and watch a porn with you just to see all of the fun things that she can experience. Good luck.
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Registered: 02-08-2005
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 9:51pm
My wife told me when we got married to just give her time. She promised one thing after another for years. She has never changed. The unhappiness will destroy the rest of your relationship and effect any children you have. My advice based on my terrible relationship and mistakes is to leave her right now and find someone who you will be happy with. Otherwise, years from now you will have been destroyed inside from all the anger and unhappiness. Start over while you can.