Please Help.....I don't know what to do

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Registered: 05-15-2008
Please Help.....I don't know what to do
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Thu, 05-15-2008 - 1:53pm

Hi All,


This is my first post, after 2 years of lurking around. I am hoping someone could give me some advice. I"ve been with my DH for over 14 years. Our sex life is good most of the time, I try to please him in all possible ways. My problem is that I have never had an orgasm during IC. I don't even have one during oral or hand play. I seem to have one when I masturbate, but NEVER with him. During

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 2:35pm
maybe a counselor could help. There are counselors that specialize in topics like this one. HUGS to you......... finding out the past is not always easy. But sometimes it for the best. and sit with your dh and talk about things outside the bedroom. You dont have to confess anything just talk. good luck.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 11:10pm

Welcome to the board, amaxiech. It's nice to see you come out of lurkdom!

I think there could be several things contributing to what's going on with you. The fact that you think you might have been molested as a child, could be an indication of something. For that, I would definitely recommend talking with a counselor. They are really the best prepared to help teach you how to deal with all of the emotions involved there.

Outside of that, do you still find your DH attractive? Are you comfortable with yourself and your body around him? Also, what types of things are you thinking about when you masturbate -- and are those things that the two of you do together?


















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Registered: 05-08-2008
Sat, 05-17-2008 - 5:27pm
I agree with the others..counseling should help uncover and discover what seems to be the problem.