Please Please Help Me!!!!!!
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Please Please Help Me!!!!!!
| Mon, 04-09-2007 - 8:13am |
Hi Everyone, I'm new on the message boards and i have quite an embarressing question.
I have never had an orgasm - EVER. I masturbate using my fingers and i usually end up turned on and breathing hard but never any further. This frustrates me so much. I'd love to feel an orgasm. i have tried lying in different positions but it still doesn't help. Vibrators and such are out of the question - i live with a lot of people!!! I usually get turned on quite easily but i can only go so far. I dont know how to fix it - so if you have any tips they would be greatly recieved.
Thanks so much, Lexie x

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Orgasms come not only from "stimulation" but from the brain. You have to be able to relax, enjoy and "let it happen". Sorry to say, but it takes some women years to learn how to allow them to happen. For more information, check out www.the-clitoris.com
Welcome to the boards twinkle_toes. I'm glad you decided to stop in :-)
I have a difficult time masturbating with my fingers too. For me, I usually can't even get turned on! My brain just can't get into the fantasy aspect, or even enjoy the feelings because it's also processing the feelings in my fingers (or something like that). Anyway, I feel a bit handicapped :-)
I use a hand held shower massage and masturbate when I'm in the shower -- this is my preferred method, even if I have the house to myself. Is there a way that you can put one of those on the shower in your house?
To have an orgasm, you do need to be relaxed, which includes not being worried that someone may hear you or somehow discover what you are doing. Also, thinking about having an orgasm will surely help to keep it away. You need to clear you mind and just enjoy what you are feeling, or fantasize about something that you find sexy. Read the link that Sakura gave you -- it has a lot of great information.
Let us know if you find any improvements.
ROFL -- you're just a barrel of laughs today! I keep those porn images filed in my brain, so I don't actually need to take the magazine in the shower with me :D
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