Pleasing my man?

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Registered: 07-16-2003
Pleasing my man?
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Thu, 01-19-2006 - 5:12pm

Hi i have a big question to ask. My boyfriend wants me to start taking control over him more in the bedroom and at the sametime pleasing myself. What can i do to make our sex life more kinky, fun and exciting. I am always pleasing him because that is what i love to do, but he wants me to please myself and control him, but he will not do the anal thing with him. Any suggestions? I feel a little conscious about my body so i wear my langerie.

flores

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: flores73
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 5:40pm

Okay, I'm not sure what you mean by "pleasing yourself?" Does he mean he wants you to masturbate in front of him or be more aggressive and take what you want from him? As in you being on top more or being more concerned about your own pleasure?

Why not try telling him to "lick this or that" or "put your hand or finger there" and make him your sex slave for the evening, if he wants you to be more in control? And you could always invest in the traditional leather dominatrix type outfit, the whip and whole nine yards.

But since this is a two-way street....what does HE do to make sex more "kinky, fun and exciting" for YOU?

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Registered: 07-16-2003
In reply to: flores73
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 6:11pm

He gives me so much pleasure, and he just wants me to bring out more of my imagination out with him. He is going to buy me my first dildo, and i am game for just about anything with him. I have never mastubated before and it was the first time with him and i think thats what he wants to see me do more of. i want to intice him more and make him want me more and i love to give him blow jobs. so i need to think of more stuff to do and buy some KY jelly for anal pleasure.

thanks

flores