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Fri, 07-16-2004 - 2:04am
Well, two questions here

1) when i masturbate its really actually very strange, i use both my hands and wrap up a blanket and press down and rub, so it hits my clit, but i read that people use one finger and rub it in circles, i find that just painful and irratating to the skin is there something wrong? i cnt touch it on the skin normal i need layers of stuff. Does anyone else experience this problem? How else do you all do it?

2) Also fingering myself doesnt make me orgasm just hit a area that gets erect when i press on it and liquid comes out is this normal? Ive heard it was my g-spot but the liquid comes with no orgasm or orgasmic feeling.~~~ any answers to my questions and they will be greatly appreciated thanx!

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Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: minniegrl
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 4:53am
Hi minniegrl, I am up late with time on my hands and I will take a pass at answering your question. I am a guy but I have taken care of this task enough times to be pretty good at it (I think). Before I start telling you what I know I want to tell you that I think it is important that you are getting touch with your body and understanding how it works. You need to get a good noniritating lotion like Vigell for that area of your body. Don't rub on the outside skin without it because it will irritate it. After putting lotion on your longest finger put the base of your hand down on your pelvic area just below the belly button, just keep a light pressure there and place your lotioned finger at the very top of your vaginal opening and using a light pressure with the tip of your finger start to do a gentle circular motion. In a little while you should begin to feel your clit beginning to harden. When it does alternate the gentle circlar motion with a gentle stroke from the base of your clit to the end and back. When it is firm you should be able to curl your finger and go in just below the clit back to the base which is about an inch. With your finger on the inside and your lubricated thumb on the outside you should be able curl your finger in a kind of come here motion with pressure from the thumb on the base of your clit move the finger and thumb in a kind of milking motion going down toward the end (it should be feeling pretty good). To give that area a little extra attention add your other hand to massage the base of your clit and move the finger that is inside about three fourths the length of your finger and repeat the come here motion against the inside front part of your vaginal area. When you are ready come back out with your finger place your thumb on one side of your clit and your first finger on the other side and do a gentle stroking motion, down at the base and out about three fourths of the way to the end and back when you have done this about 10 times you should be ready to move on to the real action. With your finger near the base of your clit start the gentle circular motion (you should feel your clit move back and fourth as your finger crosses over it). Speed up as you are getting close to a climax and it should take you over the top.

I think the liquid is normal. If the area is too sensitive for a lubricated finger you need to talk it over with your doctor. I know this is a tough subject to bring up but believe me they can handle it and you need to know what you need to do.

Hope my technique works for you. Best wishes.

P.S. WATCH OUT FOR FINGER NAILS (FILE THEM TO MAKE SURE THEY ARE NOT SHARP).


Edited 7/16/2004 1:42 pm ET ET by txguy2004

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Registered: 05-27-2004
In reply to: minniegrl
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 10:55am
You've taught yourself to respond to your method, now you have to "unteach" yourself". Direct clitoral stimulation is the easiest and best way to have orgasms, but you have to be gentle about it, since that's not "skin" but delicate tissues. You NEED to have lubrication as well as being gentle. You can use saliva, you can use the natural discharges of your vagina, or the BEST is to use a sexual lubricant such as KY jelly, or Astroglide. Do NOT USE LOTION of any kind, or oil, or vaseline. None of those are made for sexual use, and can cause soreness, burning, or even infections.

If you're ejaculating, which is possible, ejaculation is NOT an orgasm, and it can happen with or without orgasm. Either that, or you're pushing on your bladder, and causing it to leak. What you said was confusing...usually "g" spot stimulation (INSIDE your vagina) will cause ejaculation, but it doesn't get "erect". Are you referring to your clitoris, which can and DOES become erect during arousal. Your urethra is right next to the clitoris, and possibly you're just irritating it and causing it to leak.

In any case, masturbation, just like partner sex, is done for pleasure, NOT for goals, and if you enjoy what you're doing, then that's what works for you. There are many women who masturbate in the same way. If it works, then enjoy it.

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Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: minniegrl
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 7:47pm
Come on ladies give this girl some input. Over 300 views and just one female response, are you all afraid to "touch" this subject.
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Registered: 04-13-2004
In reply to: minniegrl
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 7:53pm
I'd respond, but I have no trouble fingering myself. I feel it would be VERY irritating to have a blanket being rubbed between me and my vagina actually, so I'm not a good candidate for this question.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: minniegrl
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 7:55pm
i didn't respond because i don't really see what the problem is. if a wrapped up blanket works for you, what's wrong with that? it's masturbation after all, there's no right way other than the way that feels good to you. if the issue is coming with a partner -- can you come during oral sex? a tongue is softer and wetter than a finger.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: minniegrl
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 8:20pm

Nope, not afraid to "touch" the subject at all.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: minniegrl
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 9:34pm
No one has mentioned getting a vibrator. Some of the best orgasms come from he use of a vibrator, a woman's best friend.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: minniegrl
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 10:08pm
You are so right Gigi.

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Registered: 01-08-2003
In reply to: minniegrl
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 10:42pm
I'm a visual learner, could you come and show me how? I think Issy and Gigi were wrong, vibrators aren't a woman's best friend. Sounds like you are ;)
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Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: minniegrl
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 12:50am
I would love to but right now I am under house arrest. Maybe I can work my way out.

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