pole danicing?

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pole danicing?
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 9:41am

Another one from the Oprah show...

She has aired a couple of segments about pole dancing. According to her shows there are now classes and home videos available which teach pole dancing.

What do you all think?... do you have a pole in your bedroom? would you consider taking a class and/or installing a pole? Guys, would you like it if your partner did?

Personally, I'm not sure if I would be able to stop laughing long enough to make it hot.

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Registered: 09-25-2004
In reply to: danielle02
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 9:46am
Yeah, I don't think its a good idea for me and DH either. I'm what you call a klutz. My mom calls my Gonzo and I'm pretty sure you can figure out why. I've broken the same leg twice-once at age 2, the second time at age 18-had to have surgery both times. I've broken my wrist rollerskating. I've broken my nose, both middle fingers, my right index finger, and I've got various scars from doing stupid crap that's gotten me hurt. I think pole dancing is definately out for me. I'm liable to break something of mine or DH's. The last time I tried something kinky with him, I busted his lip. Lord knows what I'd do with a pole.
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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: danielle02
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 9:51am

I didn't really watch the show attentively, but wasn't its' basis about women who needed to get in touch with their sexual side? Didn't they get makeovers as well?

For me, DH tells me I'm naturally sexy. He says it's built-into the way I carry myself...tee hee No need for poles to express my sensuality. ;-)




Edited 6/7/2005 9:57 am ET ET by rain_dancer_iam
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In reply to: danielle02
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 10:32am

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In reply to: danielle02
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:34am

I saw that segment yesterday. I think it's great if a woman wants to take the class for her health and to make herself feel good about her sexuality, it can only benefit both her and her partner.

However, I still couldn't help but think...."HERE we go again. Once again, it's being left up to the woman to wear something sexy, do something different or learn something new to keep things spicy in the bedroom." WHEN is it the man's time to be proactive? Gee, where is the show to teach men how to do something new for their partner?




Edited 6/7/2005 11:36 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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In reply to: danielle02
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:43am
Hey Kat....didn't you know that all they have to do is show up?! ;-) The same thoughts came through my head when I read this. To boot, on another board, there's a discussion about Cosmopolitan magazine's articles. One woman said she stopped taking it seriously when an article suggested a sure way to get a man was to wear a short skirt, drop something, and bend down to pick it up. tee hee
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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In reply to: danielle02
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:53am

Oh yeah....like it's ever been hard to "get a man" using your sexuality!! LOL! I stopped reading Cosmo at 18 because it was so one-sided and gave conflicting messages. It only served to make me feel pressured to do more than be myself. I have no problem giving, that's never been a problem....I just happen to like getting, too! LOL!

For once though, I would love to turn on the TV and see a show, hosted by a man, showing men how to be better lovers and partners and encouraging them to take the initiative once in a while. Think that will ever happen?




Edited 6/7/2005 11:55 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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In reply to: danielle02
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:57am

I beg to differ. I am a guy and I initiate things quite often (more than half the time). I have done two strip teases for my DW. Also from time to time, I will put on something special for her. Not all guys have to be prompted, sometimes we do the prompting.

CH

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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: danielle02
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:06pm

No....not any sooner than we'll see two hetero men kissing. ;-)

We most likely won't see a show like that due to the fact that most women find men sexually and sensually attractive just being themselves....no need for props and/or exaggerated sensuality.

Ditto on the magazines.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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In reply to: danielle02
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:12pm

Yes, that's true, Chahn. But have you taken a class to learn to striptease like a professional? LOL!

Some men, like yourself WILL do something creative or different on their own. But generally speaking, the onus seems to be on women to keep things spicy in the bedroom and that was my point.

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In reply to: danielle02
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:18pm

Sure, I think we respond to men as they are naturally but hey, I still appreciate extra effort and a nice surprise as much as the next guy does!

And my DH always gets an "A" for effort! I always appreciate when my DH does more than show up in black socks and a smile! LOL!

I just wish men got as much encouragement to DO more, as women seem to.

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