POLL: Do you do facials?

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POLL: Do you do facials?
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Mon, 08-23-2004 - 3:44pm
POLL: Do you do facials?

Not in a million years. The thought is gross and really undignified.

If a little doesn't make it into mouth and gets on face, 'll live.

Once in a great while a full-on facial is OK, just b/c my partner likes them.

Expect to 'em fairly regularly - totally comfy with the idea.

They're central to our lovemaking and that is typ. how cum(s).

You will be able to change your vote.




Edited 8/23/2004 4:57 pm ET ET by cityguy666

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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 1:02pm
This much is true: whenever men say they like facials we will get "beat down" by at least one post.

It is so strange being a male and wanting your woman to love your penis and sperm.

We've had to keep it in our pants, hidden for so many years;we just want to take it out and show oneone! Thank God some of us finally can!

If a woman wants to show her breast or buttocks or whatever in public, it is considered ok (unless it is during the Super Bowl <- even then it was kind of funny). Maybe she gets a slap on the wrist. A guy drops his draws and the police start to show up.

I'm not complaining. My point is, it is such a different life we live.

BTW, my wife loves it when I whisper that her cum is all over my face or that she had "a lot". She isn't crazy about me cumming on her and we don't do it too much because it does take two to tango really, really well. Once in awhile we'll go there just to "get it out of my system". Not a tango, more of a monologue.

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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 1:22pm
>>This much is true: whenever men say they like facials we will get "beat down" by at least one post.<<

I have seen this many times unfortunately. Also, I have also noticed that if men speak up on certain aspects of female sexuality their opinions get dismissed, or are told it is wishful thinking. I am not saying everyone does this, but I have seen it go on fairly regularly.

>>It is so strange being a male and wanting your woman to love your penis and sperm.<<

I think it is perfectly normal! And why not? I want my husband to enjoy my body and not be worried that he doesn't like how I taste, why shouldn't men want the same thing? There are different ways to show it, and facials are only one.

Leticia

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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 1:46pm
men are allowed to show there chest and their butt as much as women, if not more. i think the only reason R movies can show a frontal shot of a woman but shy away from showing the man is because you can't see much on a woman since the lips are closed.

personally, i've seen way more penises in public than vulvas. it could just be because i live in hollywood. but i've seen several men parading down the street naked, never a woman.

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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 2:23pm
R U comparing the frequency of exposure of men's and women's chest in public?

I agree that I can see many more male breasts in public than female and I rarely see a man *wearing his bikini top at the beach (although, I haven't been to Hollywood).

As for exposing our genitals, I can't comment on a woman's prespective. Maybe women have the same desire to be "viewed" as men and maybe, should our biology alike, you would have the same desire to see your fluids on your partner too. What do you think?


* sorry for the cheap shot, I am gambling the slight humor will offset the potential for a steamy reaction.





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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 3:32pm
yes, i am comparing men's and women's chests. they are not that different after all.

maybe i wasn't clear, i was referring to having seen a number of naked men (as in nothing on but tennis shoes)in public out here -- we have our share of mentally unstable homeless people.

i don't know if i would want to come on my partner's face if i could. i think i would only do it when i felt extremely aggressive toward my partner. in my experience, the partners that were into this were into displaying their dominance and had underlying insecurities about our relationship or women in general. i'm not saying that's why all men that are into it do it, that's just my experience.

maybe the person who said the guys want to feel accepted has a point. but IMO this is a pretty aggressive way to get that acceptance. i think coming in a woman's mouth during oral is a more passive way to get a similar acceptance. i feel like a much more active participant during oral than during facials.



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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 5:28pm
> If I had to find someone that fit into the stereotype of macho boy, get their sex ed

> and respect and insight of women from the barroom/locker room/porn industry you’d be da

> poster boy. Go david or whoever you are


In fairness to Sharon, it _is_ a pretty doggone macho thing. I mean in some ways what could be more masculine -- we're both there together sort of paying joint homage to His Phallus -- it's almost like a threesome -- me, him, and a penis. I mean, I really doubt that nice, effeminate, polite guys are gonna cum all over their gf's face -- but speaking ONLY for myself, I'm generally not that attracted to those types.

One of the posters said something about the Kama Sutra and big man/ little woman or medium woman/ small man ... whatever, I don't buy it. What I _do_ buy, though, is that more masculine types are more attracted to really feminine women and vice versa. Think about it ... I'm sure you know some couples where the guy's very hunky and the woman is beautiful and girly, whereas there are other couples where the guy's very nice and normal and so is the woman but they're both sorta out of the L.L. Bean catalog and each a bit more androgynous. Not that there's a _thing_ wrong with that. I won't say my current bf is poster-child hunky but still he's extremely masculine, whereas I'm girly as heck usually. Anyhow if someone else gets what I am trying to say and can give better voice to these ideas, then go for it.

Also what I would say is, judging from those who've given them to me, facials are just an incredibly sensitive moment for men. They've got EVERYTHING out on display ... literally right in front of your face. And let's face it, we've all figured out how their brains work -- the size of their penis, the hardness of their erection, the distance and volume of semen they can shoot on you just goes to the core of what they're about. Believe me, there are guys who can't make themselves do it ... not like it requires a college degree, but it does seem to require a bit of brashness and confidence. The guy's just laying everything on the table -- it can be an incredibly intimate experience with tons of emotion, if you let it be. If you're not totally into it, he's going to have a tiny scar somewhere deep in his brain ... you taken his most sensitive moment and apparently it wasn't good enough for you.

In any case, I don't think the locker room/ porno/ misogyny/ anger thing has much to do with it.

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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 7:37pm

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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 7:40pm


>If a guy is going to be scarred because of that, he must have some kind of insecurity >problems to begin with.

Sorry I way mis-expressed ... all I was saying, is, IF you're gonna do it, make it special for him. You certainly don't have to do it in any way, shape or form.

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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 8:03pm
Ok, can you explain the

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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 9:14pm
You keep trying to pin me down with slight mistyping or whatever. Of course you can be nice and polite without being effeminate. Never meant to imply the contrary.