Poll......... please respond.

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Poll......... please respond.
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Wed, 12-15-2004 - 5:29pm

Would you have sex with someone you just met (meaning on the first date/ or day you two met)?

Answer YES or NO and WHY...

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 5:31pm
No, I would need some kind of relationship before I would have sex with someone.

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Registered: 10-07-2004
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 6:15pm
Depends on the chemistry I feel with that person. I have had sex on the first date and I have not had sex at all with someone I've been out with a few times. I can tell you that if I'm not sexually attracted to a person, the relationship will not continue. It all just depends.....
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Registered: 10-19-2004
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 6:40pm
I did...I ended up married to him (6 years now)
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 8:56pm
YES. But I'm a guy and we'll try to have sex with anything that stops moving long enough. Seriously though, I'd obviously have to feel attracted to this person and be very comfortable with what little that I know about them. I doubt that I would initiate it myself. She would have to give some pretty clear indication that she wanted sex for me to consider it.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 10:21pm

No. Sex requires a deep emotional connection for me. I don't think I could get that connection on the day I met someone.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 12-15-2004 - 11:55pm
Yes, I have. And we're still blisfully happy together 12 years later.
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Registered: 10-04-2004
Thu, 12-16-2004 - 9:28am

I've never had sex on the first date. But I always dated in hopes of finding the potential of a relationship, and I think if you sleep with someone on the first date, you really have no idea what eachother's intentions are, or if he's just looking for sex, etc.

But I don't think there's a certain timeframe for waiting, I think you just know when you're ready. I've been with my bf for only 2 weeks now, but we've gotten together 6 or 7 times in those 2 weeks, and we actually just had sex for the 1st time last night (awesome!). So yes, 2 weeks is not very long to know someone, but we're both very open and know what we're looking for, and have spent a lot of time together in those 2 weeks.

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Registered: 10-24-2003
Thu, 12-16-2004 - 1:00pm
In my 20's, I've have sex on the first date a few times. I guess I was young and crazy. In my 30's and now my 40's, I would never consider it. I'm looking for a relationship and sex has never gotten me anywhere. I've met way too many men who it turned out just wanted sex and nothing more. So now I wait a few months to see if there's a relationship developing first. Plus, I mostly meet people via online dating, and there's nothing quite like sleeping with a man and then looking at his profile online and seeing that he's back online looking for other women within 24 hours. Now I wait until we've agreed to be exclusive and take our profiles down.
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Registered: 06-14-2002
Thu, 12-16-2004 - 2:49pm

Would you have sex with someone you just met (meaning on the first date/ or day you two met)?

IN my younger days (back before steam), I did that whenever I could. But I found things to be sometimes very empty. Now that I am older (approaching ancient) I wuoldn't do that. The sex is better when there is that emotional commitment.

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Registered: 11-21-2004
Thu, 12-16-2004 - 3:07pm

NO because...
1.) You don't know about their sexual past. If they've had multiple partners infected with hiv or std's, there definately no way you'd know. I wouldn't want to take those risks.

2.) I personally think sex evolves into your relationship. When you care about the person, you want to be with them that way. That feeling is way more powerful and important than feeling a little lust. That's the way I feel.

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