Popularity of Fellatio

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Popularity of Fellatio
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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 7:19pm

I'm wondering about fellatio to completion, and in particular, how much do men really desire it?


We seem to get a lot of threads here by women on the subject (swallow or not, how to do it) and I'm wondering just how

CL-Yasmin1967

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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 7:44pm
Hi Yasmin,

My wife and I are in the same boat as you and your husband. We too will use fellatio as a "pre-launch warm-up". Occassionally she finishes me with her mouth, and while it IS really fun and different, it's not our usual or even preferred method of finishing...as a rule, I like to orgasm in her vagina or occassionally anally (special occassions).

Peace.

Scott.

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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 9:34pm
I think DH and I are pretty much like you two. It's an appetizer, not a main course, for most of the time. A big part of foreplay, but hardly ever the whole part. Like yours, he takes forever and it's hard on me to keep that up for 30 or 40 minutes. And even the times that I'm determined to give him that treat, he usually ends up preferring to finish with intercourse.

PS. Oral is never a reciprocal thing with us. Often in one go-round, only one of us gets oral - and that's fine with us.

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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 9:58pm
I take forever, too, and in order to make it happen my DF has to just focus on me. She has no problem with swallowing, but it isn't actually her favorite activity. Since I orgasm much more easily with intercourse and she always has multiples during intercourse, it's kind of a no brainer which one we are going to do. We like to do mutual oral as a warm-up , and she orgasms this way, but that distracts her so much that her oral technique suffers. We mostly do it because I really like to give her oral. It occurred to me the other night when we did some mutual oral before proceeding to intercourse, that we did it for close to ten minutes and that would suffice to finish most men.

Another problem we have with oral is that we like to have a lot of body contact and kiss. This is why she isn't much interested in oral for her anymore. She loves lying entwined side-by-side and me doing digital and prefers me on top for intercourse because of all the close body contact and kissing.

taoist.

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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 10:51pm
Hmmm ... isn't this an interesting bit of research? We, too, are like the previous respondents.

Until now, I thought I was the only one who took forever to cum from fellatio. When it happens, DW gets a real charge from making me buck, jump, scream and groan. She says it gives her a huge sense of power ... I know it makes me weak and helpless.

However, because it takes a long time, its a major workout for her. For us, fellatio is like the olive in a martini ... its not the main course, but sure adds pep to the drink.

We both tend to prefer the closeness of intercourse, often preceded by several oral orgasms for her (I, too, get a kick out of making her buck, jump, scream and groan).

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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 11:13pm

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CL-Yasmin1967

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Thu, 04-22-2004 - 11:43pm
We're similar to the other posters.

We use fellatio as a warm up to the main event probably 50% of the time. Sometimes if I haven't cum after my partner has had a couple of orgasms from intercourse or if I'm taking longer than usual she'll fellate me to finish me off. Intercourse is seen as the main course for us as well.

Only rarely will my partner fellate me to orgasm before we have had intercourse. As yasmin pointed out, intercourse probably won't happen after that - or at least it won't happen for about 10 or 20 minutes after that until I can get another erection. Mind you, more fellatio can help me get another erection then too. We do that every so often too. Or do a 69 while waiting for me to recover.

How long does it take me to orgasm via fellatio? Depends a lot of the circumstances, but normally I'll take a good 10 or 15 minutes but my partner can speed that up considerably by varying her technique. Sometimes after having had intercourse it might only take a minute or two as I am close to orgasm already.

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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 12:54am
DH likes it to completion, but if it's obviously not going to work we switch up to vaginal sex. I like completing it, as I like to be the one in control ;o) He enjoys the visual, he will watch me as I am fellating him. We do alot of touching though. One hand is on his penis and the other is touching his testicles etc. He also touches my breasts and such. I enjoy it, it's nice when I am tired and not in the mood for sex to give him a BJ instead. We sometimes use it as a warm up to sex, but most of the time when I start giving him oral he wants me to finish that way instead of having sex. I guess we are different, because my DH very much likes oral to completion. He asks for them alot, and at times more than sex. When I was reading the info here about deep throasting and told him I wanted to learn, he was more than willing to help me practice ROFL. He performs oral on me alot too, as he loves the smell and taste. Maybe he has an oral fixation, who knows ;o)

Leticia

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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 1:35am
I think I've stated before that my DH and I have "all oral" nights as an alternative to intercourse. We like variety and change plus, we both enjoy oral pleasure very much and feel we deserve one another's undivided attention, at least once or twice a week.

We rarely use oral stimulation as foreplay though. Not sure why. I think it's mainly because it's such an effective means of orgasm for both of us, that it likely wouldn't be just be an appetizer, it would be the whole meal. LOL!

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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 5:51am

I'm just adding in DH's comments.

CL-Yasmin1967

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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 6:05am
HI YASMIN

For me its good to finsh in her mouth but its not my biggest fantcy if its happend ok if not still ok

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