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| Mon, 05-02-2005 - 8:51pm |
I caught my boyfriend looking at porn and it really bugged me. He has always told me that it wrong and he would never do, when ever I would bring it up he would sound disgusted and make me feel like I was dirty for wanting to do this with him, so it was much to my surprise I caught him. He even lied to me and told me I was seeing things and that it was none of my business. Eventually he confessed and said he was embarresed about me catching him. While he was at work I looked at his history and to my complete shock there was more porn than any thing else. i feel so betrayed and hurt. Almost like he has cheated on me. Anothor thing is that there were some gay site as well as girl sites. Does that mean that he is gay or that he was sexually abused as a child? what exactly does it mean. I'm so confused. I know that he loves me but I'm not really sure what to do or if i can trust him anymore. Is he looking at these site because he's not attracted to me anymore. He has always prided himself on living a life according to God. He grew up in a VERY religious family and he has always prided himself on that. But now its like I'm being shown a double life that he is leading. Please help me!!!

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So basically it's okay for him to react this way towards his own personal problems b/c of the religion that he was raised in? As in, it's okay to lie and make your girlfriend feel like crap b/c you're Catholic and you just don't have total control over your thought process?
"believe we are infallible and ALWAYS honest is naive."
True. But it sounds like he wasn't even trying. In fact, he'd STILL be making her feel bad about it if she didn't catch him red-handed.
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You're right. I don't know what I was thinking. Who am I to judge?
P.S. I didn't mean it when I said you were right, I was just trying to make you feel better and give myself some time to think and consider the whole situation. Does that make me a liar? Does anyone have the right to judge me or anyone else?
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I don't think I'm being judgemental by saying that dealing with your own personal problems by lying and turning it around to your (loving) partner is a real bad thing.
And I know you're not Catholic. I was trying (and obviously failing) to point out how silly it was to hide behind your upbringing when you should take responsibility for your own actions.
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