position question

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Registered: 06-28-2007
position question
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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 12:06pm
Ok, I'm not quite sure how to go about asking a question like this, so I'll just ask away...
DH and I have been wanting to try the doggy position, but we just cant seem to make it work. Its like he cant reach me. From what I've read about this position, I've had the impression that is was the "one size fits all" or should I say "all sizes fit one" position. I'm not small by any means, and dh has a rather large belly. Also his penis is on the shorter side. Is it just not possible for us, or are we doing something wrong. TIA for any tips or advice...

 

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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 12:28pm
It depends on where you're trying to do it, how you're trying to do it....and lots of other things. People have different sized legs, and different sized torsos. If you're bent over in front of him, maybe you have to lower your backside, or he has to bend his legs a little. Or maybe try it with you kneeling on the bed, and him standing beside it..or you lying on your side, and him "spooning" beside you....but again........you know where what has to go...so put your backside in a position to receive his penis. Raise it, lower it, or whatever has to be done to put them both in approximately the same place.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 07-03-2007 - 10:27pm

Welcome to the board kristiann75.

It sounds like the two of you are not getting yourselves into good placement. Doggy style is pretty much the universal, "one position works for all" answer. I think Sakura gave you some good advice on ways to align things better. Using pillows to raise either of your bodies is also something you might find helpful.

Here are some resources that are also helpful for larger people:

Sexual Positions for Larger People
http://www.more2hug.com/articles/sex.html

Big Love: A Sourcebook on Sex for People of Size and Those Who Love Them
http://www.amazon.com/Big-Love-Sourcebook-People-Those/dp/1890159166

Try experimenting with slight changes and using props that you have around the house too.



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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 11:11pm
I was just wondering last night if it would work for me to kneel on the bed with him standing. We'll definitely keep trying, 'cause I know once we succeed, it will be worth it. Thanks for the tips!

 

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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 11:14pm

Trust me, doggy isn't one size fits all! With my ex, who was about 25kg (that's around 55lb) overweight, we couldn't get that position to work for us. His penis was also on the smaller side (slightly under average). I'm a small thing, so you would have thought that would have made some allowances. Every time we tried it, I wouldn't get any pleasure, and that's IF he could get it in far enough for him not to slip back out. It didn't matter how high or low my backside was in the air.

I hated that position until I met another guy and discovered what it could be like. At that time, my ex and I had split up for a while, and when we got back together, with a bit more experience behind me, I attempted that position with him again, and still couldn't make it work.

We broke up two years ago, and I've been with two other guys since then, and because of them doggy is my favourite position. I've never had a bad experience with it since, no matter how I'm positioned.

Kudos to you if you can find something that works for the both of you.

 


 


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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 11:33pm
Thanks for the links Misty!

 

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Tue, 07-03-2007 - 11:47pm
hmmm....well I guess we'll just keep on trying :) If we figure something out, great! And if not, then we had fun trying and, darn, we'll have to learn other positions. Thanks xplosiv for your input. (I feel like a kid at Christmas, having found all these boards...such a wealth of knowledge and experience!)

 

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 10:33am

Have you tried having him lie on the bed and doing WOT with you facing backwards? If you can do it that way doggy style should work if you get a good angle going on. Actually WOT with your front facing his feet is the same position you would need for doggy style so you can find out if it is possible for you.

You can also try a wheelbarrow doggy style position. He would have to be able to support part of your weight though with your front on the bed and him standing behind you.

Good luck and -- aren't these boards great! I love them too!




Edited 7/11/2007 10:35 am ET by tami-kins
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Sat, 02-09-2008 - 3:16pm

I am on the smaller side and have a lot of trouble getting any good penetration with doggy style.

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Sat, 02-09-2008 - 4:27pm

Welcome to the board, markrms.

iVillage has a fairly new tool that you might find helpful:

Perfect Position Finder
http://choosers.ivillage.com/love/perfect_position/launcher.php

Let us know if you find it helpful.