position question

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Registered: 05-15-2006
position question
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Mon, 06-04-2007 - 4:30pm
I have recently started having sex with my new boyfriend. He really enjoys 'woman on top'. I am not a person that really enjoys being in charge, and this position sort of forces me to do that. I want to make him happy, and I know that eventually I could overcome my uncomfortability with this if I tried. Do any other women have issues with this?? Is this something that will wear off as I get more comfortable with him?
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Registered: 05-22-2007
Mon, 06-04-2007 - 5:15pm
Honestly, I was in the exact same position as you(no pun intended) My finance much rathered that and I believed I had to make him happy so I just never mentioned it. It inturn made me not want to even have sex. For a while I was actually upset when he would want it. So I just talked to him and we worked out a system. I would be on top sometimes and him for others or we would switch during. It actually made it more enjoyable and spontanious for both of us. Different things work for different people. Eventually you should become more comfortable, but just talk to him and let him know how you feel. Good luck!!!
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Registered: 03-12-2007
Mon, 06-04-2007 - 5:19pm

i always thought i'd be really uncomfortable being on top, but i have come to love it since i found out how to make it feel good

i have to sit all the way up and lean back a little which leaves everything in view for him and he's able to touch everything. before figuring out what felt good, i wasn't a fan. i'm also really insecure about my body, but i find it to be kind of empowering (right word???) when he watching me and when he's squirming all over and suck. sex is one of the only times that i am ok with my body, i think.

you aren't in full control. he should be doing something. if he's just lying there, then don't do it b/c he's just being lazy. unless that's what you want? when i first starting having sex, i wouldn't let my bf move b/c it didn't feel good.

just try different things. you can pretty much lie on him too, then your body isn'texposed much if that's something tha tmakes you feel uncomfy. if you don't like it. don't force it. eventually you might come around to liking it more as your relationship goes on.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 06-04-2007 - 8:46pm

Welcome to the board imadorable1987.

I do think you will become more comfortable with this position, but I don't think that is the only choice you should have. Talk with your BF and let him know that you are not comfortable having that be the only position you use.

In the meantime, here are some tips for WOT that you might find helpful:

Hot tips for women on top:
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,drpatti_72j6,00.html

How to master the woman on top position: http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638358_591195,00.html

You on top: The sexiest mattress moves of all: http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/sex/no/articles/0,,426380_500115,00.html



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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 06-04-2007 - 8:51pm

Welcome to the board cajun_20. Thanks for joining in.



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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 06-04-2007 - 9:41pm
When my husband and I first got together I would not do the WOT position, but I finally tried it and then for the longest time that was the only position in which I could get off.
It was hard at first to get up the nerve to do it, but once I did there was no lookin back!!
Good Luck!
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Registered: 03-12-2007
Mon, 06-04-2007 - 11:58pm
oh! enjoying your links...bubbly back float..cosmo's position of the week looks exciting.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 06-05-2007 - 7:54am

Gotta love those aqua kama sutra moves!

I don't know if this is in there, but one of our favorite positions in the hot tub is with me kneeling on the seat, looking out of the hot tub (arms over the outside). He enters me from behind while the bubbles stimulate me from the front. He gets some effect from the bubbles too, and especially during the day, it's a very erotic feeling to be partially exposed outside of the spa.

Now, if my neighbor would just quit working on his roof ...



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Registered: 03-12-2007
Tue, 06-05-2007 - 5:17pm

aww. this makes me very sad that i don't have a hot tub!!!

and your neighbor is probably working on his roof for a reason ;)

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Registered: 10-15-2006
Tue, 06-05-2007 - 8:55pm

imadorable hello!


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