Positions/suggestions for fuller penetra

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Positions/suggestions for fuller penetra
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Thu, 11-06-2008 - 11:23am

I am fairly inexperienced sexually and have just gotten back together with my long term boyfriend after about a six month break-up.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 11-06-2008 - 4:56pm

Welcome to the board, K.

What was it about the sex that made it better? Was it simply that you had a more full feeling, or did this guy do things to your body (without using his penis) that knocked your socks off?

IF it was just a full feeling .... many toys can reproduce that. Being an experienced lover doesn't mean you're a good lover. You and your BF can explore new things together and have mind blowing sex, but first, you need to stop comparing him to this other guy. No 2 sex partners are the same, period ... not even if you have dozens or more. Each relationship has its' own uniqueness.

If you want to help teach your BF how to "WOW" you, then first communicate with him about what you need. Learn about your own body and what it takes to be satisfied, really satisfied, and then either tell him or show him. There's a great website called the-clitoris.com that you might want to check out. You can also have your BF take a look at it. There's tons of info there on the female anatomy and sexual response system.

Trying different positions can always be fun, and may help you find ways to fit together better. Don't be afraid to experiment, stretch, lean, lift legs or whatever works for you (after all, it's fun to learn new pleasures). Here's a tool that you might also find helpful:

Perfect Position Finder
http://choosers.ivillage.com/love/perfect_position/launcher.php

Keep us posted on how things are going. No doubt once you start experimenting with different things, you'll have more questions too.





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Registered: 09-05-2008
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 11:42pm

I had a similar situation. There were some notable differences. Instead of being the female, I was one of the males. I was not the large male, but I wouldn't be classified as small as in your case. Average would be a very good word to describe my dimensions. I was, most likely, younger than you at the time this happened. The woman in my situation was trying to decide between two men, which was known to both men.

Setting aside the differences, the similarities are that that women in my situation VERY much enjoyed sex with this other man because of his size. I can tell you now, people may say you'll adjust back to the size of BF, but there was definitely a different feel with this other man, probably one of the reasons you were primarily with this one man.

Do I think you'll go back to your BF and he'll be able to give you those same feelings? Nope. It doesn't have to mean the end of the relationship, but you are going to have to make some decisions. On one hand, if you can look past not having that feeling again or getting that feeling through the use of sexual toys, then all is good.

On other hand, if you feel deprived because you can't recapture that same "feeling", I think there will be part of you that will always be unsatisfied sexually. For some people, that's a deal breaker for others it's not. Only you can make that decision.

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Registered: 03-04-2007
Wed, 11-12-2008 - 11:17am
I can totally relate and have posted myself about it a couple times on another board I think!!!!
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Registered: 12-21-2006
Wed, 11-12-2008 - 3:38pm
Nothing like experience to tell the tale. I don't know how many times I have heard it said
that "size doesn't matter", or, "any" vagina will conform to whatever size penis that is inserted during intercourse.
Of course, as each of those of you who are pointing out, ONE SIZE DOESN'T FIT ALL.
I, being male, ran into a similar situation with my last relationship. It was NEVER going to work to her expectations.
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Registered: 05-14-2008
Wed, 11-12-2008 - 4:02pm
Well said.
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Registered: 02-07-2008
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 10:06am
I can identify with you. My exH was small-average. The guy I dated after we separated was large. I could never go back to small. My husband now is the perfect fit. Biggest is not always best. But you have to decide just how important sex is to you. I could not stay in a relationship where I was not sexually satisfied. Just remember, you don't have to settle, you can have the whole package.
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Registered: 05-04-2007
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 11:22am

or at least my sexual expectations have. <<<<

Definitely

All my BFs have been average size, but some were definitely better at technique than others. BF now, hits the spots before I even know what I want.

Try different angles, have him do more of a grind sometimes, than just in & out. Try legs downs, legs up, sideways, legs closed, arch your back. Everything is different & useful.

If he can rub his penis into the G spot, while someone attends to the clitoris, you can really push the orgasm on for a longer amount of time.

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Registered: 12-25-2006
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 11:56am

This is a recipe for success!











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Registered: 07-28-2008
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 2:05pm

Thanks for all the help and suggestions.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2008
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 2:06pm

Thanks to everyone for all the helpful suggestions and even just for taking the time to respond.

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