Positive qualities of a FWB??

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Registered: 01-28-2004
Positive qualities of a FWB??
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Fri, 09-26-2008 - 2:40pm

What are your positive qualities of having and being a friend with benefits??

I was wondering what is the best side of being FWB, Please share your thoughts

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Registered: 02-17-2007
Thu, 10-02-2008 - 4:52pm

When you are in a FWB relationship with someone who is your actual friend, it can be a wonderful thing! In my case, he is a long time friend of about 14 yrs and we really love and respect each other, though neither of us wants a relationship. We enjoy each others company and none of the typical issues that you have when you are in an exclusive relationship comes up. If I want to spend my evening alone, I don't have to worry about hurting their feelings and vice versa. It is also easier to just talk about issues, knowing that there will not be any long term repercussions because of it. No grudge holding, no baggage. It's so much easier to be honest about everything.

I have not slept with him since by BF and I got together, but if we were both single, I have no doubt that we would sleep together again. To me, it's sex with someone you love, so it is still great and fulfilling, you just don't have to worry about all of the things that go along with being in an exclusive relationship.

 

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Registered: 12-21-2006
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 7:59pm
And here I am. over fifty and I had to discover a women's message board just to hear about FWB lifestyles.
At this stage of my life, I'm not too likely to even meet any friends of the opposite sex, so I doubt that I will encounter any benefits, either.
I do find it interesting that women seem to view sex more like we men have seen it for the last thirty years, or so.
I doubt if suggesting a FWB relationship back before I married would have been accepted too kindly.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 8:37pm
Welcome to the board, Ceasenomo.



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Registered: 02-29-2004
Sun, 10-05-2008 - 8:20am

I used to have a FWB, back when I cared about sex (don't know what happened, but...). Emotional unavailability was what I craved. Having a FWB was like having a relationship without having to deal with a relationship. I already had to deal with a "sensitive yet insensitive" (yes, he was that type) boyfriend.

Now I couldn't possibly like to settle for a FWB. I want someone who can change my life. Sex isn't a change; it's just a temporary distraction.

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Registered: 10-12-2008
Tue, 10-14-2008 - 9:55pm

For a guy you have a woman you're attracted to that you get to have sex with.

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